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Nov 23rd, 2021 — Changing Your Role (Chapter Eight of Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage) Part One
Nov 16th, 2021 — Dealing with Difficult People During the Holidays
Nov 9th, 2021 — Doing Deep Internal Healing Through Spiritual Process Groups
Nov 2nd, 2021 — Three False Beliefs My Abusive Relationship Gave to Me
Oct 29th, 2021 — How the Book "Married Sex" by Gary Thomas Objectifies Women and Perpetuates Abuse
Oct 26th, 2021 — Four Barriers That Keep Women From Leaving Abusive Relationships
Oct 19th, 2021 — When All Your Thoughts Are Despairing and Hopeless
Oct 12th, 2021 — How to Achieve Financial Independence After Abuse
Oct 5th, 2021 — But Didn't I Promise to Stay in Sickness and in Health? What About Mental Illness?
Sep 28th, 2021 — Finding Joy Even When Life Hurts
Sep 21st, 2021 — Does God Love You Less Because Your Marriage Is Bad?
Sep 14th, 2021 — How Do I Make an Exit Plan?
Sep 7th, 2021 — Is the Bible Against Women?
Aug 31st, 2021 — What You Can Do When Your Christian Husband Bullies You Part Two
Aug 24th, 2021 — What You Can Do When Your Christian Husband Bullies You Part One
Aug 17th, 2021 — Survivor Story: Marie
Aug 10th, 2021 — What I Would Preach to the Modern Day Preachers (if they would listen...)
Aug 3rd, 2021 — What You Need to Know When You Leave
Jul 27th, 2021 — Why Hanging on to Hope in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship Doesn't Work
Jul 20th, 2021 — Is the Cost to Leave an Abusive Marriage Worth It?
Jul 13th, 2021 — My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part Two
Jul 6th, 2021 — My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part One
Jun 29th, 2021 — How Pretending and Fear Keep You Stuck in Abuse Cycles (and What Sets You Free)
Jun 22nd, 2021 — Emotional Abuse Survivor Q&A
Jun 15th, 2021 — The Big Problem with Christian Marriage Counseling
Jun 8th, 2021 — Is it Possible to Stay Well in an Abusive Marriage?
Jun 1st, 2021 — Finding Your Personal Style After Years of Emotional Abuse
May 25th, 2021 — Finding a Healthy Partner After Divorce
May 18th, 2021 — How I Encouraged an Abusive System with My Silence and Submission
May 11th, 2021 — Why Relationships Are Complicated for Survivors and How to Unhook from Relationship Drama
May 4th, 2021 — Consent in Christian Marriage: Why Your "No" Feels Confusing
Apr 27th, 2021 — Can Emotionally Abusive Marriages Be Restored?
Apr 20th, 2021 — How to Become Toxic Person Proof
Apr 16th, 2021 — To Forgive Doesn't Automatically Mean To Reconcile
Apr 13th, 2021 — Staying Connected to Our Kids Post-Divorce
Apr 13th, 2021 — Who Burned the House Down?
Apr 6th, 2021 — Building Resilience in Children Who Have Experienced Coercive Control
Apr 6th, 2021 — Where Does God Fit Into My Toxic Marriage?
Mar 30th, 2021 — Practical Help for Christian Women in Confusing and Painful Marriages
Mar 23rd, 2021 — Has God Abandoned Emotional Abuse Survivors in the Church?
Mar 16th, 2021 — Untwisting the Bible on Authority and Patriarchy
Mar 9th, 2021 — Is it My Fault Our Marriage Is Bad?
Mar 9th, 2021 — Ten Steps Out Of Relationship Hell
Mar 5th, 2021 — Four Ways to Respond to Emotional Abuse
Mar 2nd, 2021 — The Great Sex Rescue
Feb 23rd, 2021 — If There Is a Loving and Powerful God, Why Does He Allow Abuse? Part Two
Feb 16th, 2021 — Interview with Judge Tim Fall on Fairness for Victims of Abuse
Feb 9th, 2021 — If There Is a Loving and Powerful God, Why Does He Allow Abuse? Part One
Feb 2nd, 2021 — How Do I Heal After Abuse and Sexual Betrayal?
Jan 26th, 2021 — Christian Women Who Care About Other Christian Women
Jan 19th, 2021 — What Life Can Look Like for Christian Women After a Divorce
Jan 13th, 2021 — How Do I Deal with Emotional Triggers?
Jan 7th, 2021 — Why Does My Husband Lie All the Time?
Jan 6th, 2021 — Wisdom for Survivors: The Best of the Flying Free Podcast
Dec 30th, 2020 — How Do You Deal with the Pain of Being Rejected by Your Family?
Dec 23rd, 2020 — How Do I Support My Adult Children Who Grew Up In A Spiritually and Emotionally Abusive Home?
Dec 16th, 2020 — How Writing Your Story Will Help You Heal From Emotional and Spiritual Abuse
Dec 11th, 2020 — When Christian Friends Spiritually Abuse and Mistreat You
Dec 9th, 2020 — You Are Not Responsible for Your Husband's Behavior
Dec 2nd, 2020 — My Husband Changed After We Got Married
Nov 25th, 2020 — Parenting Small Children in an Emotionally Destructive Home
Nov 18th, 2020 — Do Gender Roles Contribute to Emotional Abuse in the Home and Church?
Nov 12th, 2020 — Seven Red Flags in a Toxic Christian Dating Relationship
Nov 11th, 2020 — What is Gaslighting in a Toxic Narcissistic Relationship?
Nov 6th, 2020 — Emotional Abuse: When Your Husband Doesn't Take Responsibility for His Behavior
Nov 4th, 2020 — But I Don't Want to Hurt Anyone!
Oct 30th, 2020 — Are You In Charge of Making Everyone Else Happy All the Time?
Oct 28th, 2020 — How Do I Know if a Church or Person Is Safe for Me?
Oct 21st, 2020 — Why Do I Feel Like I'm Going Crazy in My Marriage?
Oct 15th, 2020 — Why Foolproofing Your Life Will Save Your Life
Oct 14th, 2020 — Protecting Yourself Financially During Divorce
Oct 7th, 2020 — What Is Emotional Manipulation?
Sep 30th, 2020 — When Your Abusive Husband Is a Pastor
Sep 23rd, 2020 — Am I the Problem in My Marriage?
Sep 16th, 2020 — How to Prepare for Your Custody Case
Sep 10th, 2020 — What Works (and What Doesn't) When it Comes to Healing From Emotional Abuse?
Sep 9th, 2020 — Trusting God While Making Your Own Adult Choices in Your Controlling Marriage
Sep 3rd, 2020 — Why Your Marriage Makes You Feel Crazy in the Head
Sep 2nd, 2020 — I'm Always Walking on Eggshells in My Christian Marriage!
Aug 27th, 2020 — Why Christian Women Are Conditioned to be People Pleasers (And How They Can Break Free!)
Aug 26th, 2020 — How Do I Forgive Someone Who Keeps Hurting Me?
Aug 19th, 2020 — When God and the Bible are Weaponized Against Christian Women
Aug 12th, 2020 — A Christian Woman's Job Isn't to Make Everyone Happy
Aug 5th, 2020 — Are You Married to a Quiet Covert Abuser with a Hidden Lifestyle?
Jul 31st, 2020 — Should Christian Wives Submit to Husbands No Matter What?
Jul 29th, 2020 — Am I Codependent Just Because I'm Choosing to Stay with an Emotionally Abusive Partner?
Jul 22nd, 2020 — The Ways Religion Kills People
Jul 16th, 2020 — When You're the Mom of a Child with Borderline Personality Disorder
Jul 15th, 2020 — When You Are Rejected by Family, Friends, and Church
Jul 9th, 2020 — Your Emotionally Abusive Husband Doesn't Get to Define You
Jul 8th, 2020 — When Your Christian Husband Yells at You All the Time
Jul 2nd, 2020 — Learning How to Use Your Voice in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Jul 1st, 2020 — Can Emotional Abuse Survivors Ever Learn to Completely Trust Again?
Jun 24th, 2020 — Five New Ways for Christian Wives to Think About Their Destructive Marriage
Jun 17th, 2020 — Is It Rebellious for Christian Women to Say No?
Jun 10th, 2020 — When Giving the Silent Treatment is Emotional Abuse
Jun 3rd, 2020 — Setting Boundaries with a Husband Who Blames You for Everything
Jun 1st, 2020 — How Leaving an Emotionally Abusive Relationship is Like Giving Birth
May 27th, 2020 — The Link Between Narcissism and Legalism in the Church
May 25th, 2020 — How Abusers Groom Their Victims (and Everyone Else)
May 20th, 2020 — Can Christians be Narcissists?
May 18th, 2020 — Love, But Don't Let Yourself Be Manipulated
May 13th, 2020 — Should a Christian Wife Submit to an Abusive Husband?
May 11th, 2020 — How Do I Figure Out What is Wrong in My Christian Marriage?
May 6th, 2020 — God Loves You More Than He Hates Divorce
May 4th, 2020 — Who Will Rescue Me From Emotional Abuse?
Apr 29th, 2020 — How to Respond to Emotional Abuse Tactics
Apr 27th, 2020 — When Christian Women Hurt Christian Women
Apr 22nd, 2020 — Can a Christian Get a Divorce?
Apr 20th, 2020 — Sometimes Loving Means Leaving
Apr 15th, 2020 — Seven Things an Abuser Does When You Set Boundaries
Apr 13th, 2020 — When "Dying to Self" Isn't Spiritual or Healthy
Apr 8th, 2020 — Abused by Husband and Rejected by Church
Apr 6th, 2020 — Stop Telling Real Victims They Have a Victim Mentality
Apr 1st, 2020 — Are We "Tearing Down Our House" When We Set Healthy Boundaries?
Mar 25th, 2020 — Hope and Healing After Trauma
Mar 23rd, 2020 — Finding Peace When You've Lost Control
Mar 18th, 2020 — Exchanging an Abusive Faith for a True and Simple Faith
Mar 11th, 2020 — Nothing I Do Makes My Husband Happy
Mar 9th, 2020 — Why You're Probably Not Codependent (And You've Got Super-Powers Instead!)
Mar 4th, 2020 — Questions Christians Have About Rebuilding Life After Divorce
Feb 26th, 2020 — Help Your Kids Overcome Trauma from Abuse and Divorce
Feb 24th, 2020 — How Emotional and Spiritual Abuse Prevents Women From Growing Up (and the two mind-shifts you need to change that!)
Feb 19th, 2020 — Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem After Divorce
Feb 16th, 2020 — Sometimes Good Christians Get Divorced
Feb 12th, 2020 — The Beliefs That Keep Christian Women Stuck in Abusive Marriages
Feb 10th, 2020 — How Can I Be a Good Mom in an Emotionally Abusive Marriage?
Feb 5th, 2020 — When Your Pastor Says You're Not Being Abused if You Don't Have Bruises
Jan 29th, 2020 — Can My Alcoholic Husband Change?
Jan 22nd, 2020 — When Abuse and Our Faith are Tangled Up Together
Jan 15th, 2020 — Emotional Abuse: When You Have All the Responsibility and None of the Freedom
Jan 8th, 2020 — I Feel Guilty Because Even Though He's Changing, I Still Want to Leave
Jan 1st, 2020 — Practical Tips for Facing the New Year with Hope
Dec 27th, 2019 — Why God Doesn't Rescue You From Your Bad Marriage
Dec 17th, 2019 — The Abuser God is the Ultimate Wolf in Sheep's Clothing
Dec 10th, 2019 — How Our Female Bodies Reflect God's Glory
Dec 5th, 2019 — What Modern Preachers Would Tell God When He Divorced Israel
Dec 2nd, 2019 — The Holidays Make Separation and Divorce Even Worse
Nov 27th, 2019 — When You're Separated and You Cry Your Way Through Christmas
Nov 25th, 2019 — When Your Husband and Pastor Demand Reconciliation and Forgiveness
Nov 11th, 2019 — How Do I Find a Good Man and a Good Church?
Nov 8th, 2019 — How Christians Defend Their Favorite Abusers on Social Media (And How You Can Respond)
Nov 6th, 2019 — Wes Feltner's Character is Exposed in His Sermon and His Abusive Response
Oct 30th, 2019 — The Intersection Between Abuse and Pornography
Oct 29th, 2019 — How Do I Trust God with My Kids?
Oct 24th, 2019 — Calling the Church to Compassion
Oct 22nd, 2019 — Crazy Conversations That Are Emotionally Abusive
Oct 16th, 2019 — I Can't Stop Hoping He Will Change His Abusive Behavior
Oct 1st, 2019 — When You Are Betrayed by Your Church, Family, and Friends
Sep 25th, 2019 — Help! I'm Starved for Affection!
Sep 18th, 2019 — Why is My Husband So Mean to Me?
Sep 11th, 2019 — Shame Busting Your Divorce
Sep 6th, 2019 — Let's Learn the "Duck Duck Grey Rock" Game!
Sep 4th, 2019 — Breaking Destructive Relationship Patterns You Learned in Your Family of Origin
Aug 28th, 2019 — Practical Tips For Christian Single Women After Divorce
Aug 21st, 2019 — Narcissistic Abuse in Your Family of Origin
Aug 14th, 2019 — What if I'm a Narcissist and Not a Victim?
Aug 11th, 2019 — Why the Church Rejects Emotional Abuse Victims (and what you can and can't do about it!)
Aug 7th, 2019 — Taking Back Your Life After Emotional Abuse
Aug 2nd, 2019 — Why the Marriage Books Don't Work When You Are in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Jul 31st, 2019 — Learning to Love the Bible Again After You've Been Spiritually Abused
Jul 17th, 2019 — Sometimes Divorce Is a Gift of Mercy
Jul 10th, 2019 — If I Leave My Abusive Marriage Am I Giving Up On the Power of God to Change My Husband?
Jul 7th, 2019 — A Letter From an Abuser Who Wants to Keep His Wife Under His Thumb
Jul 5th, 2019 — This Is What Covert Hidden Abuse Looks Like
Jun 26th, 2019 — Three Reviews of the Flying Free Sisterhood Community
Jun 24th, 2019 — How I Made Peace with Letting Go of My Family of Origin
Jun 20th, 2019 — How to Help Kids Heal From the Effects of Emotional Abuse in the Home
Jun 13th, 2019 — Co-Parenting with an Emotionally Abusive Man
Jun 7th, 2019 — But Maybe God Will Do a Miracle and Change My Husband!
May 30th, 2019 — Why the Church is Often the Most Dangerous Place for an Domestic Abuse Survivor to Get Help
May 24th, 2019 — The Difference Between a Normal Marriage and an Emotionally Abusive Marriage
May 17th, 2019 — Is Self-Care Selfish, or is it a Sacred Duty?
May 10th, 2019 — When Your Older Kids Side with Their Abusive Father
May 7th, 2019 — When Christians Say Your Marriage is Bad Because You Don't Respect Your Husband Enough
May 2nd, 2019 — Is it Your Christian Duty to Surrender to Emotional Abuse in Your Marriage?
Apr 29th, 2019 — The Smear Campaign Abusive Churches and Husbands Launch Against Christian Women
Apr 25th, 2019 — I Can't Be Perfect Enough for My Husband
Apr 18th, 2019 — During Separation, How Do I Cope With an Overwhelming Workload and No Support?
Apr 17th, 2019 — A Thank You Letter to the False Church (and one for the True Church too)
Apr 9th, 2019 — Christian Women, You Don't Need Permission to Make Your Own Decisions
Apr 3rd, 2019 — What Happens When You Set Boundaries with an Emotional Abuser?
Apr 1st, 2019 — The Most Effective Spiritual Abuse Involves a Lot of Truth and a Little Lie
Mar 26th, 2019 — How to Set Healthy Boundaries to Keep Yourself Safe
Mar 19th, 2019 — How Do I Know If I'm Doing the Right Thing by Leaving My Emotionally Abusive Husband?
Mar 11th, 2019 — What Christian Women Need to Look for in a Counselor
Feb 20th, 2019 — What Does the Bible Say About Divorce and Remarriage?
Feb 13th, 2019 — Waking Up to Emotional Abuse so You Can Focus on Healing
Feb 12th, 2019 — When the Queen Gets Rejected (A Story to Help You See Who You Really Are!)
Feb 6th, 2019 — The One Thing Every Healthy Relationship Must Have (and Why!)
Jan 29th, 2019 — What Do You Do If You're Married to a Fool?
Jan 23rd, 2019 — How Do I Know if My Church is Spiritually Abusive?
Jan 16th, 2019 — Is Suffering Really One of God's Purposes in Marriage?
Jan 9th, 2019 — Misogynist Theology Causes Emotional and Spiritual Abuse in Homes and Churches
Dec 29th, 2018 — How Can You Still Honor Yourself in an Abusive Marriage?
Dec 29th, 2018 — How Can You Tell if Your Abusive Partner Has Changed?
Dec 13th, 2018 — How Complementarianism Causes Abuse in Churches and Homes
Nov 30th, 2018 — Does God Want Me to Stay in or Leave My Emotionally Abusive Marriage?
Nov 21st, 2018 — Divorced or Separated During the Holidays? Four Truths to Give You Hope
Nov 14th, 2018 — Why Partnership Is the Key to a Healthy Marriage (and what to do if you don't have one!)
Oct 10th, 2018 — Three Myths About Self-Care for Christian Women
Sep 30th, 2018 — How Tolerating the Disapproval of People Sets You Free
Sep 20th, 2018 — Learn to Advocate for Yourself (and How This is Key to Your Healing!)
Sep 16th, 2018 — How Fake Christianity (False Piety) Destroys People's Lives
Aug 29th, 2018 — What Does the Bible Say About Emotional Abuse?
Jun 11th, 2018 — The Crazy Things Your Pastor or Bible Counselor Told You to Do In Your Abusive Relationship
May 1st, 2018 — Message to a Baptist Church: You Preached Death to the Hearts of One Hundred Women Today
Apr 26th, 2018 — You Have Ten Strengths That Will Help You Find Freedom from Emotional Abuse
Apr 19th, 2018 — What Kind of Woman Does an Abusive Man Target?
Apr 12th, 2018 — Three Things I'd Do Differently When Leaving My Emotionally Abusive Marriage
Apr 6th, 2018 — Divorce is Like Death (But There's Life on the Other Side)
Mar 29th, 2018 — How to Know if Your Marriage Crosses the Line From Normal to Abusive
Mar 2nd, 2018 — Seven Predictable Things Your Emotional Abuser Does When You Set Boundaries
Feb 25th, 2018 — Bethlehem Baptist Church Is Not a Safe Church for Women in Emotionally Abusive Relationships
Feb 17th, 2018 — Desiringgod.org Blames Women for "Marriages Made in Hell"
Feb 7th, 2018 — Spiritual Abuse Is Using the Bible as a Weapon of Control
Jan 29th, 2018 — God Loves His Separated and Divorced Daughters and Will Never Leave or Forsake Them
Jan 25th, 2018 — What Is Covert Emotional Domestic Abuse?
Jan 3rd, 2018 — Why Emotional and Spiritual Abuse Cause C-PTSD
Dec 19th, 2017 — Complementarian vs. Egalitarian
Nov 16th, 2017 — Dealing with Anger Over Hurt (and What Forgiveness is Really About!)
Oct 26th, 2017 — A Story about Sheep, Wolves, Hired Hands, and a Shepherd
Jul 12th, 2017 — How Emotionally Abusive Men Are Like Six-Year-Old Bullies
Jun 29th, 2017 — Was it Really That Bad? And Maybe He'll Change?
May 24th, 2017 — What Does Love Look Like When You're Married to an Emotionally Abusive Spouse?
Apr 22nd, 2017 — Does Decision Making Paralyze You?
Mar 20th, 2017 — The Secret to Tolerating Disapproval
Mar 12th, 2017 — What You Need to Know to Break Free From the Oppression of Patriarchy
Feb 26th, 2017 — How Do I Enforce Boundaries with My Husband?
Feb 15th, 2017 — How Will You Know Your Marriage is Over?
Feb 9th, 2017 — Ten Christian Women Who Got Out of Their Emotionally Abusive Marriages
Feb 2nd, 2017 — Why You Probably Shouldn't Trust People Until They Have Earned Your Trust
Jan 7th, 2017 — Seven Steps to Getting Out of Your Emotionally Abusive Marriage So You Can Find Hope and Healing
Jan 1st, 2017 — When Right Is Wrong and Wrong Is Right
Jul 24th, 2016 — When You are Erased
Jul 21st, 2016 — A Twist on the Good Samaritan
Apr 18th, 2016 — The "God Hates Divorce" Lie
Apr 15th, 2016 — Why It's Normal for Emotional Abuse Targets to be Angry
Mar 21st, 2016 — How Writing Will Help You Figure Out Your Confusing and Painful Marriage
Mar 11th, 2016 — Rushing Reconciliation is Rarely Rewarding
Mar 8th, 2016 — How Can You Tell if Someone is Sorry - For Real?
Feb 25th, 2016 — Misogyny: An Epidemic From Hell
Dec 22nd, 2015 — I Don't Pray My Kids Will Do Great Things for God Anymore
Apr 3rd, 2014 — Living with a Chronically Self-Centered Spouse
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