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Episode 16 – The Burden of Having to Be Perfect

by | Apr 25, 2019 | Learn with Natalie, Learning, Survivor Identity, The Flying Free Podcast, Waking Up | 4 comments

Have you felt weighed down by impossible, always-changing standards of perfection, depending on who you’re dealing with? Rachel and Natalie discuss the insanity of this common tactic of the enemy to steal your joy and neutralize your power.


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  1. Rebecca

    I would highly recommend watching the movie “12 Years a Slave”. I wept as I watched this freeman’s life being taken from him bit by bit. It is a strong visual to what we experience in our toxic relationships. So powerful. May trigger some to watch it.

  2. Rebecca

    “My idea of God is not a divine idea. It has to be shattered time after time. He shatters it Himself.”
    ― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

  3. Rebecca

    “Getting over it so soon? But the words are ambiguous. To say the patient is getting over it after an operation for appendicitis is one thing; after he’s had his leg off is quite another. After that operation either the wounded stump heals or the man dies. If it heals, the fierce, continuous pain will stop. Presently he’ll get back his strength and be able to stump about on his wooden leg. He has ‘got over it.’ But he will probably have recurrent pains in the stump all his life, and perhaps pretty bad ones; and he will always be a one-legged man. There will be hardly any moment when he forgets it. Bathing, dressing, sitting down and getting up again, even lying in bed, will all be different. His whole way of life will be changed. All sorts of pleasures and activities that he once took for granted will have to be simply written off. Duties too. At present I am learning to get about on crutches. Perhaps I shall presently be given a wooden leg. But I shall never be a biped again.”
    ― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

  4. Lynn Searl

    Thanks so much ladies for the reminder that we follow Jesus and not man. I bought the book recommended by Rachel.


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