Are We “Tearing Down Our House” When We Set Healthy Boundaries? [Episode 60]
April 1, 2020
In an emotionally abusive marriage, you need to set boundaries with your partner. Here’s what to do if you get accused of “tearing down your house.”
In an emotionally abusive marriage, you need to set boundaries with your partner. Here’s what to do if you get accused of “tearing down your house.”
So you set some boundaries, but then you get the kickback. Let’s talk about that!
Rachel and Natalie talk about what boundaries are, where we allow others to cross our boundaries, where we cross the boundaries of others, and how to set healthy boundaries in order to have nurturing relationships with ourselves and others.
Just because your voice doesn’t matter to one human being (or even several), doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter. Here’s how to make it count!
“Why do you keep bringing up the past?”
“You can’t have boundaries with me. You’re my wife.”
“You’re too sensitive.”
“I said I was sorry. You need to accept that. Let’s choose to have a good day now.”
“You think you’re so perfect.”
Do these phrases sound familiar? They certainly sound familiar to me. I want to show you some ways you can combat these words your abuser throws at you, even if you’re just combating them in your own mind. You don’t even have to say anything out loud (because we all know what happens when we try to reason with an abuser/fool). You can just say these phrases I’m going to teach you in your head, and that will be enough to give you the empowerment and strength you need!
But first, let’s check out a negative review I recently received *gasp* and look to Matthew 23 to help us figure out if this reviewer is on the right track…or not.
When twelve women come together to write a book about rising above narcissistic abuse, you know they are a force to be reckoned with. Today’s episode is a sneak-peak into their stories and how they escaped their abusers, what their healing journey has been like since then, and more.
Join Ina Johnson Meyers, her co-authors, and yours truly as we discuss red flags, how religion can keep you in bondage, and how these women gained the courage to leave their abusive situations. Spoiler alert: God is at the center of all of these women’s stories, and He wants to give you the courage to rise above narcissistic abuse, too.
Get the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, recommended by therapists. That chapter will help you figure out what’s going on in your marriage.
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