In this episode, I explore a listener’s question about her husband’s childlike behavior during their separation and discuss how to shift the focus from trying to change him to focusing on personal growth and freedom. I want to share some insights on why understanding the abuser may not be as important as understanding yourself, and how Christian women can embrace their own transformation.
Do you sometimes feel like a bird in a gilded cage? Christian women are often taught they need an authority figure to protect them. Is that true?
Here are some of the questions I answered in today’s episode:
– Should I tell my adult children and close friends about the hidden emotional abuse I’m experiencing?
– I feel guilty because we’re in the middle of the divorce process, but all of a sudden, my husband has started being nicer than he’s ever been!
– Why am I so afraid to tell my husband that I am done with the marriage?
– How do I avoid being triggered in a situation where my needs are being ignored or misunderstood?
– Is my husband abusive, or just selfish and immature?
– And MORE!
Have you ever been ghosted by someone? They disappeared from your life, seemingly into thin air? Have you ever been worried that God might ghost you, especially if you don’t dot your “i”s” and cross your “t’s?” Spiritual anxiety is common among Christians, and Dr. Tiffany Yecke Brooks wants to break that down with you inside her newest book, Holy Ghosted: Spiritual Anxiety, Religious Trauma, and the Language of Abuse.
Sometimes your circumstances are completely outside of your control, and no matter how much you may want to leave them behind you, you simply cannot. Sometimes this is the emotionally abused woman’s situation. They may want to leave, but they can’t do that today, tomorrow, or even next year. They have to stay for whatever reason. Are they doomed to a life of misery and pain? No. Absolutely not.
Diana Swillinger has some practical strategies about how you can grow while staying. You can’t fix your circumstances, but you can fix YOU. You can learn to be happy right where you’re at. Let’s do it together.
Will a marriage intensive work to save my marriage?
Get the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, recommended by therapists. That chapter will help you figure out what’s going on in your marriage.
