If you nodded along to any of these statements, take a deep breath. You’re not alone, you’re not crazy, and you’re not failing God.
Hundreds of Christian women have felt exactly the same way before finding clarity, community, and a path forward through Flying Free.
When you’re in a relationship with emotional manipulation and control, you become trapped in a cycle that makes you question everything—your perceptions, your worth, even your sanity.
Traditional marriage advice often makes this worse. “Try harder,” “Submit more,” “Respect him,” “Pray about it“—these well-intentioned suggestions can deepen your isolation when the real issues remain unaddressed.
Here’s what women told us they believed BEFORE
joining Flying Free:
“I believed that I had ruined my marriage (somehow). I believed that God had laid requirements on my life, and all my life I felt guilty because I never measured up.”
“I thought that I must be having a nervous breakdown and was imagining things, or being over sensitive. I felt bewildered, confused, and numb.”
“I believed I was the problem. I felt hopeless and like I was crazy. I was doing everything I could to save my marriage at the expense of me and nothing was working.”
Sound familiar? This is what happens when manipulation and emotional abuse go unrecognized—you take on responsibility that isn’t yours to carry.
Every day you remain in the confusion cycle takes a toll:
One year from now… still walking on eggshells.
Five years from now… deeper isolation and health issues.
Ten years from now… looking back with regret at the life you didn’t get to live.
Flying Free isn’t just another program—it’s a complete support system specifically designed for Christian women navigating confusing and controlling relationships.
Built on three essential pillars that work together to create lasting change:
Clear, practical courses that help you understand what's happening, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild your confidence
A private, supportive space where hundreds of women share their journeys, offer encouragement, and prove you're not alone or crazy
Regular guidance from experts who understand the unique challenges of emotional abuse in Christian contexts
Unlike generic relationship advice or even traditional counseling, Flying Free addresses the specific dynamics of emotional abuse and control—all within a faith-affirming framework that helps you reconnect with God’s true heart for you.
Step-by-step courses addressing every aspect of your journey, including:
A private forum where you can:
Thousands of coaching sessions on specific topics:
Access everything in Flying Free from any device, any time of day or night. Whether you have a quiet hour to dive deep into a course or just five minutes to read a supportive message from the community, Flying Free travels with you.
Your transformation journey doesn’t follow a 9-to-5 schedule, and neither does your support system.
Created specifically for Christian women facing these exact challenges
I’m a former homeschooling mom of nine, grandmother, educator, author, podcaster, professional certified coach, and life-long survivor of covert emotional and spiritual abuse.
I know what it’s like to crawl, and I know what it’s like to fly free. My passion, education, and skill set empowers women of faith to go from one to the other.
I’ve gently and compassionately walked this path with hundreds of women, and I’m ready to walk it beside you.
You’re not alone anymore.
Before
“I believed I had no choice. I felt lost and hopeless. I was drowning.”
After
“I began to believe I had a choice and a voice! I felt hope and empowered and dared to believe I could be happy. I show up for my life by enforcing boundaries, recognizing the pattern of abuse and choosing life, not being gaslit.”
Before
“I thought that I must be having a nervous breakdown and was imagining things, or being over sensitive. I felt bewildered and very confused and numb.”
After
“After I began my work of healing in Flying Free, I had vocabulary for my experiences, and realized I wasn’t crazy. The brain fog cleared as I came to believe that I had agency, and that I could be comfortable with people disagreeing with my decisions.”
Before
“I believed that I had to endure abuse to be a good Christian. I believed I wasn’t worthy of anything better. I believed boundaries were sinful.”
“I no longer believe my husband has more power than he actually does. I no longer believe I have less power than I actually do. I act as if I have a right to make decisions in my own and the kids’ best interest even if he doesn’t agree and acts out. Because I do.”
Before
“I believed I was the problem. Tired all the time! And had no energy. Nothing but ruminating over my marriage.”
After
“I have self-worth and agency. More and more freedom to show up as me. I even like who I am now!”
Before
“I believed that God had laid requirements on my life, and all my life I felt guilty because I never measured up. I felt trapped in my own guilt.”
After
“I began to feel hopeful that God was more loving than I thought and didn’t require me to suffer for the rest of my days. I began to believe that there was joy in believing in God after all – that He really did have a plan to work everything out in the end, and the gospel really was Good News rather than the tale of horror I really felt it was.”
Where are you on this journey? Wherever you are, there are women in Flying Free who have been there too—and can show you the way forward.
Flying Free is only $29 a month. When the time comes to register, you can pay with a credit card and you’ll be automatically charged every month on the same day you subscribed. You may unsubscribe at any time. Your payment will show up on your credit card as going to FLYINGFREE. There is also the option to purchase a one-year membership for $290. This is a savings of $58 – or twelve months for the price of ten. An annual membership also gets you a free PDF download of Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage AND a PDF download of the Is It Me? Companion Workbook.
Some of our members need an extra layer of safety. One of the ways they’ve solved this problem is to purchase a pre-loaded Visa gift card at Walmart or other major chain grocery or drug store. Banks sell them, too. Another idea is to have a friend or family member use their credit card, and you can pay them back with cash.
The Flying Free Sisterhood is unique in some important ways.
Oh my goodness, YES! We’ve got lots of women in Flying Free who are committed to staying in their marriage relationship. They are working on themselves and growing strong. One member’s husband was so impressed with the changes in his wife, now HE is beginning to change! Does that happen every time? Nope. In fact, it’s actually rare. But my point is – getting strong and healthy can only be a good thing, whether or not your spouse changes.
That’s okay. Change is totally up to you. You can take it slow, or you can have a major epiphany overnight. But Flying Free will never force you to do or change anything. If you join and you change (which I believe you will), I promise it will be because you WANT to. Flying Free will help you make an honest assessment of what’s going on in your life while empowering you to make good decisions that will be healthy for you and your family.
At $29/month (less than $1 per day) or $290/year, Flying Free costs a fraction of a single therapy session while providing daily support, comprehensive courses, and regular coaching. Many women find that gaining clarity also helps their minds and bodies feel better, and it helps them make better financial decisions.
If you knew that you would be a different person a few short months from now in an incredibly life-transforming way – would the cost of Flying Free be worth that?
However, if you are in a position where you have absolutely no wiggle room financially, see if a friend or family member would be willing to sponsor you with a one year subscription. Send them updates on how their investment is paying off in your life. People love to know how they can help—sometimes all you need to do is ask.
Flying Free is designed for busy women. There’s no set schedule or required participation level. You can engage as much or as little as your situation allows—whether that’s diving deep into courses or just reading supportive messages for five minutes during a bathroom break. Many members start small and increase their participation as they begin experiencing benefits.
Many women join Flying Free precisely because they’re unsure. The courses and community help you gain clarity about your specific situation without pressure or judgment. If you’re confused, constantly walking on eggshells, or wondering if you’re the problem, Flying Free can help you sort through that confusion.
If you aren’t ready for Flying Free yet, I recommend getting my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. That book will help you discover whether or not you are in an emotionally abusive relationship—and the next steps you can take to find hope and healing again.
Reacting to abuse in unhealthy ways just means you need help with boundaries. Flying Free will give you the tools you need to grow strong in your own boundaries so you can respond to abuse as a mature adult woman rather than a trapped cat in a corner.
While each relationship has unique elements, there are common patterns that emerge in emotionally manipulative relationships. Women in our community come from diverse backgrounds, denominations, and circumstances—from newly married to decades-long relationships, with and without children, working through various types of challenges. The principles and tools work across these different situations.
Flying Free was specifically created for Christian women by a team who shares your faith. We honor Scripture while helping you distinguish between authentic Biblical teaching and harmful misinterpretations that have been used to keep women trapped. Many members report a deeper, more authentic connection with God as they heal.
$0 upfront cost, but high
cost to:
Mental health
Physical wellbeing
Children’s development
Future opportunities
Complete system
Specific to your needs
Community & coaching
Daily access
Faith-affirming approach
For less than the cost of lunch at Panera, you can begin accessing tools, community, and coaching that have transformed thousands of lives. There’s no long-term commitment required—you can stay as long as the program continues to support your journey.
Every day you remain in confusion is another day of:
OR, one year from now you could be saying what thousands of Christian women can now say: “I finally feel validated, heard and understood. I have improved my self-talk and learned how to give myself what I used to need from others. Now I have my own back, own my choices, and let others have their feelings and life experiences. I think and feel different, and it’s such a relief!
Women who have found their way to Flying Free consistently say the same thing: “I wish I had found this sooner not only for my sake, but for the sake of my children.”
Dear Sister,
If you’ve read this far, I know something resonates with your experience. Perhaps you recognize yourself in the stories shared, or maybe you’re still trying to make sense of your situation.
I remember the confusion, the self-doubt, and the desperate desire to honor God while also finding a way forward. I remember feeling trapped between what I was taught about being a “good Christian wife” and the reality of what was happening in my home.
Flying Free exists because no woman should have to navigate that journey alone. The community, courses, and coaching you’ll find here are exactly what I wish had existed when I was in your shoes.
Whatever you decide about joining us, please know this: You are not crazy. You are not alone. And there is a path forward to the life God truly intends for you—one of dignity, clarity, and authentic joy.
I hope to welcome you inside our community soon.
XOXO,
Natalie Hoffman
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