Can He Change?

This is the golden question, isn’t it? Yes, people can change. The problem is, many choose not to. Especially when life is working for them just fine as it is.

The question isn’t “can he change?” The question is, will you?

Oh no. I’m not telling you you need to change for him, for your church, or for anyone else. I’m not telling you you need to be better in bed, a better housekeeper, or better at placating him and making him happy.

His happiness (and his change) is entirely up to him. He’s a big boy. (If you can Google answers, so can he!)

But your well-being? That’s up to you. And I’m guessing you’re here because you’re not feeling well emotionally, spiritually, or even physically.

Maybe you don’t even know who you are anymore.

Would you like to change that? Because that’s the real change you need. And if that’s the change you’re looking for, then you’ve come to the right place.

It’s not your job to change your husband. It’s your job to seek your own personal transformation. Let’s go!

Can He Change?

This is the golden question, isn’t it? Yes, people can change. The problem is, many choose not to. Especially when life is working for them just fine as it is.

The question isn’t “can he change?” The question is, will you?

Oh no. I’m not telling you you need to change for him, for your church, or for anyone else. I’m not telling you you need to be better in bed, a better housekeeper, or better at placating him and making him happy.

His happiness (and his change) is entirely up to him. He’s a big boy. (If you can Google answers, so can he!)

But your well-being? That’s up to you. And I’m guessing you’re here because you’re not feeling well emotionally, spiritually, or even physically.

Maybe you don’t even know who you are anymore.

Would you like to change that? Because that’s the real change you need. And if that’s the change you’re looking for, then you’ve come to the right place.

It’s not your job to change your husband. It’s your job to seek your own personal transformation. Let’s go!

Articles To Help You Get Started

Seven Predictable Things Your Emotional Abuser Does When You Set Boundaries

How Can You Tell if Someone is Sorry – For Real?

Was it Really That Bad? And Maybe He’ll Change?

Podcasts Episodes You Can Relate To

How Can You Tell if Your Abusive Partner Has Changed?

What is Emotional Manipulation?

When Abuse and Our Faith are Tangled Up Together

by Natalie Hoffman

Flying Free Sisterhood

An online coaching, education, and support community for women of faith in destructive relationships.

Every couple faces challenges and you knew marriage would take hard work, but you thought you’d be in it together. Instead…

  • You hate to even bring up problems with your husband because you fear how he’ll respond. So you wind up tangled in a never-ending internal battle and always seem to walk away carrying the blame.
  • He hates the things you enjoy, and you’re drowning in loneliness even though you have other friends. (Other people seem to like you…why doesn’t HE?)
  • You hate to admit it, but you feel the most peaceful when he’s not even around.
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Inside the Sisterhood

Learning Modules

Bite-size weekly lessons along wtih mini-journal assignments focused on helping you get rid of toxic core beliefs, replacing them with truth that will strenthen you so you can go from crawling to flying. One easy step at a time.

Coaching

Professional coaching every single week to help you discover your brain’s programming. If you want golden nuggets and light bulb moments, you’ll get your fill of them here! Feeling stuck? This will get you moving agin in a healthy direction.

Expert Workshops

Turbo-charged education from experts like Bob Hamp and Patrick Doyle – with experience in the field of emotional abuse recovery. These workshops will give you the insights you need to get you unstuck and moving forward.

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Testimonials

What Sisterhood Members Are Saying!

Words alone cannot begin to describe the profoundly positive impact Flying Free has had on my life. After so many many years of discounting and quieting my own heart and emotions, I’m finally listening to my own spirit while continuing to follow The Holy Spirit. Go figure! I wasn’t crazy after all! As I continue to carefully strengthen my own soul, I’m slowly rising out of this hellish pit in which I’ve existed. Small step by step, prayer by prayer, plan by plan, I do see some light now. I’m spiritually free now, becoming steadily increasingly emotionally free, and One Day will be physically free and living my life away from this toxic environment. Sometimes my progress feels slow, but then God so sweetly reminds me how precious I am in this process.

Thank you so much for flying free! I feel like I have grown so much in the last year and a half. I’m no longer afraid of my husband’s disapproval or silent treatment and he knows it. He has switched tactics and is now trying to act like he is the one who is trying to fix our marriage and I’m the one who doesn’t care. Right now I feel I have reason to stay because I’m not in danger and am no longer afraid of what my husband thinks. I am working on getting stronger and am preparing to leave if I need to. The butterfly stories let me know I’m not alone in this and I can make it, too. The coaching calls help me think about how to change my thinking and show me that others are going through similar situations. We are in this together and we all can fly free–whatever that means to our particular situation!

Flying Free is life saving and that is no exaggeration. I joined the sisterhood in Jan 2019. I’ve gone from utter despair, confusion and believing I am an evil sinful woman to beginning my journey to me, warts and all, but me who a loving God created. The lessons, expert workshops, butterfly stories and coaching sessions are like food to my soul and your honest and relatable delivery is refreshing and provides a sense of safety where all else feels very shaky. I have a long journey ahead BUT because of the strength and support I find here I believe I can do this now, for my son and I to be free. The glimmer of light is getting brighter and when it starts to dim I have a place to go that confirms constantly that it is not me. I now see that I married an abuser and I am free to pursue a life of peace, love and clarity. This was an unthinkable prospect 18 months ago and I thank you Natalie for your persistent hard work in providing what you never had, for us, whilst still going through your own life’s struggles. Every lady in this group amazes me. God bless you abundantly.

I watched the sisterhood from a distance soaking in what I could without being a member, but now that I’m in the group? Wow! it’s been the lifeline that I needed!

If it weren’t for Flying Free, I honestly don’t know what or how I would have been able to survive over the past year and more. I have listened to all of your podcasts, read all of your blogs and your book. When the invite came along to join the Flying Free Sisterhood I had my doubts you would provide any new material. I was wrong. This is great stuff!!! I can’t wait to see what comes next! Thank you

I just joined this group a couple of weeks ago and have had so much growth. Already 3 very large breakthroughs. I do have to count my cents, and Flying Free Sisterhood is worth every cent!

I love Flying Free! I am learning so much about myself & my brain is getting rewired from the inside out. There’s so much content here that I’m reading, journaling, watching, listening through all the things & it’s all so helpful. At first I couldn’t handle all the information but after a few weeks in & I’m getting into a good groove. Healing takes work & it’s obvious Natalie has done so much work in her own life or this program would fall flat. I am getting wayyyy more out of the coaching calls than I thought I would. At first I thought, why would I want to watch someone else get coached? My own problems are all I can handle. But now I can’t get enough & I’m devouring the replays. Natalie has a way of making sure everyone can relate to the issue at hand.

I have no words to express what I think of what you do for women- especially women of faith. It’s remarkable and more needful than ever. Women of faith have it especially difficult because the church god adds a burden that is unbearable, unscriptural and downright abusive on top of their abusive marriage. Thank you. It’s so little but I mean it. Your impact goes far beyond the woman of faith- for example my daughter (now 20) has heard life-changing truth (untwisting scripture, for example) AND life-changing encouragement and hope because of Flying Free. Imagine the impact on other children, through their mothers…from your work.

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