If you nodded along to any of these statements, take a deep breath. You’re not alone, you’re not crazy, and you’re not failing God by considering divorce.
Hundreds of Christian women have stood exactly where you stand now—at this painful crossroads—before finding clarity, community, and a path forward through Flying Free.
When you’re in a relationship with emotional manipulation and control, making the decision to divorce becomes clouded with confusion, guilt, and fear.
Traditional church teaching often makes this worse. “Marriage is forever,” “God hates divorce,” “Suffer for Christ“—these well-intentioned but incomplete biblical interpretations can trap you in a cycle of indecision when the real issues remain unaddressed.
Here’s what women told us they believed BEFORE
joining Flying Free:
“I believed that divorce would be the ultimate failure. I believed that God would be disappointed in me if I couldn’t make my marriage work, no matter how abusive it was.”
“I thought that considering divorce meant I was giving up on God’s power to change my husband. I felt like I was betraying my faith by even thinking about leaving.”
“I believed that I would be alone forever if I left. I was terrified of starting over and wondered if the abuse was better than facing the unknown.”
Sound familiar? This is what happens when spiritual manipulation and emotional abuse go unrecognized—you take on guilt and shame that isn’t yours to carry.
Every day you remain in the confusion cycle about divorce takes a toll:
One year from now… still paralyzed by indecision.
Five years from now… deeper isolation and health issues.
Ten years from now… looking back with regret at the life you didn’t get to live.
Flying Free isn’t just another program—it’s a complete support system specifically designed for Christian women navigating confusing and controlling relationships, including those facing the difficult decision of divorce.
Built on three essential pillars that work together to create lasting change:
Clear, practical courses that help you understand what's happening, make decisions aligned with your values, and rebuild your confidence—whether you stay or leave
A private, supportive space where hundreds of women share their divorce journeys, offer encouragement, and prove you're not alone or crazy for considering this path
Regular guidance from experts who understand the unique challenges of emotional abuse in Christian contexts and can help you navigate divorce decisions with wisdom
Unlike generic relationship advice or even traditional counseling, Flying Free addresses the specific dynamics of emotional abuse and control—all within a faith-affirming framework that helps you reconnect with God’s true heart for you, even through divorce.
Step-by-step courses addressing every aspect of your journey, including:
A private forum where you can:
Thousands of coaching sessions on specific topics:
Access everything in Flying Free from any device, any time of day or night. Whether you have a quiet hour to dive deep into a course about biblical perspectives on divorce or just five minutes to read a supportive message from someone who’s been where you are, Flying Free travels with you.
Your divorce decision journey doesn’t follow a 9-to-5 schedule, and neither does your support system.
Created specifically for Christian women facing these exact challenges
I’m an educator, author, podcaster, professional certified coach, and life-long survivor of covert emotional and spiritual abuse. I’m also a divorcee. Twice.
I also know what it’s like to make the difficult decision to divorce after decades of trying everything else. I understand the spiritual wrestling, the judgment from others, and the fear of the unknown that comes with this choice.
I know what it’s like to crawl through the valley of decision, and I know what it’s like to fly free on the other side. My passion, education, and skill set empowers women of faith to navigate this journey with wisdom and grace.
I’ve gently and compassionately walked this path with hundreds of women who have made the difficult decision to divorce, and I’m ready to walk it beside you.
You’re not alone in this decision anymore.
Before
“I believed I had no choice. I felt lost and hopeless. I was drowning.”
After
“I began to believe I had a choice and a voice! I felt hope and empowered and dared to believe I could be happy. I show up for my life by enforcing boundaries, recognizing the pattern of abuse and choosing life, not being gaslit.”
Before
“I thought that I must be having a nervous breakdown and was imagining things, or being over sensitive. I felt bewildered and very confused and numb.”
After
“I knew I had a choice as to whether I wanted to stay in my marriage or not. I began to feel a sense of freedom. I began to show up for my life by separating from my husband and refusing to tolerate his abusive behaviour.“
Before
“I believed that I had to endure abuse to be a good Christian. I believed I wasn’t worthy of anything better. I believed boundaries were sinful.”
“For me the biggest part of the program I found the most helpful was my ability to interact with my ex. During my in-house separation I was able to gray rock like I was never able to and really get my head around my boundaries, and then once I moved out I NEVER looked back. All the coaching and classes taught me how to change my thinking about everything to do with his abuse and see it for what it was. I cannot express how much this has changed my life for getting divorced AND now showing my children who I actually am and providing space and healing for them and me.“
Before
“I believed I was the problem. Tired all the time! And had no energy. Nothing but ruminating over my marriage.”
After
“I began to believe that God loves me more than He loves anniversaries. I began to feel hopeful. I showed up by leaving, staying gone, starting my masters degree, and getting mentally healthier than I’ve ever been.“
Before
“I believed God hates divorce and staying for the kids is the best. I felt like I couldn’t keep living like this and trapped. I was doing nothing. Frozen.”
After
“I began to feel hopeful that God was more loving than I thought and didn’t require me to suffer for the rest of my days. I began to believe that there was joy in believing in God after all – that He really did have a plan to work everything out in the end, and the gospel really was Good News rather than the tale of horror I really felt it was.”
Where are you on this journey? Wherever you are, there are women in Flying Free who have been there too—and can show you the way forward.
Flying Free is only $29 a month. When the time comes to register, you can pay with a credit card and you’ll be automatically charged every month on the same day you subscribed. You may unsubscribe at any time. Your payment will show up on your credit card as going to FLYINGFREE. There is also the option to purchase a one-year membership for $290. This is a savings of $58 – or twelve months for the price of ten. An annual membership also gets you a free PDF download of Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage AND a PDF download of the Is It Me? Companion Workbook.
Some of our members need an extra layer of safety. One of the ways they’ve solved this problem is to purchase a pre-loaded Visa gift card at Walmart or other major chain grocery or drug store. Banks sell them, too. Another idea is to have a friend or family member use their credit card, and you can pay them back with cash.
Flying Free takes a nuanced, biblically-informed approach to divorce in cases of abuse. We explore what Scripture actually says about divorce (beyond the simplified “God hates divorce” teaching), examine the heart of God toward the oppressed, and provide spiritual support for women making this difficult decision. Our community includes women at all stages—those still deciding, those in the process of divorce, and those rebuilding life after divorce.
Get rid of “What if I’m not sure I’m in an emotionally abusive relationship” and replace it with:
How will Flying Free help me with the practical aspects of divorce?
While we don’t provide legal advice, we do offer an extensive, comprehensive course that covers most of the things you’ll need to know in order to navigate your divorce with confidence. Plus, our community offers invaluable peer support from women who have navigated the divorce process. Members share resources, strategies for finding good attorneys, financial planning tips, co-parenting approaches, and emotional support through each stage.
Oh my goodness, YES! We’ve got lots of women in Flying Free who are committed to staying in their marriage relationship. They are working on themselves and growing strong. One member’s husband was so impressed with the changes in his wife, now HE is beginning to change! Does that happen every time? Nope. In fact, it’s actually rare. But my point is – getting strong and healthy can only be a good thing, whether or not your spouse changes.
That’s okay. Change is totally up to you. You can take it slow, or you can have a major epiphany overnight. But Flying Free will never force you to do or change anything. If you join and you change (which I believe you will), I promise it will be because you WANT to. Flying Free will help you make an honest assessment of what’s going on in your life while empowering you to make good decisions that will be healthy for you and your family.
At $29/month (less than $1 per day) or $290/year, Flying Free costs a fraction of a single therapy session while providing daily support, comprehensive courses, and regular coaching. Many women find that gaining clarity also helps their minds and bodies feel better, and it helps them make better financial decisions.
If you knew that you would be a different person a few short months from now in an incredibly life-transforming way – would the cost of Flying Free be worth that?
However, if you are in a position where you have absolutely no wiggle room financially, see if a friend or family member would be willing to sponsor you with a one year subscription. Send them updates on how their investment is paying off in your life. People love to know how they can help—sometimes all you need to do is ask.
Flying Free is designed for busy women. There’s no set schedule or required participation level. You can engage as much or as little as your situation allows—whether that’s diving deep into courses or just reading supportive messages for five minutes during a bathroom break. Many members start small and increase their participation as they begin experiencing benefits.
Many women join Flying Free precisely because they’re unsure. The courses and community help you gain clarity about your specific situation without pressure or judgment. If you’re confused, constantly walking on eggshells, or wondering if you’re the problem, Flying Free can help you sort through that confusion.
If you aren’t ready for Flying Free yet, I recommend getting my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. That book will help you discover whether or not you are in an emotionally abusive relationship—and the next steps you can take to find hope and healing again.
Reacting to abuse in unhealthy ways just means you need help with boundaries. Flying Free will give you the tools you need to grow strong in your own boundaries so you can respond to abuse as a mature adult woman rather than a trapped cat in a corner.
While each relationship has unique elements, there are common patterns that emerge in emotionally manipulative relationships. Women in our community come from diverse backgrounds, denominations, and circumstances—from newly married to decades-long relationships, with and without children, working through various types of challenges. The principles and tools work across these different situations.
Flying Free was specifically created for Christian women by a team who shares your faith. We honor Scripture while helping you distinguish between authentic Biblical teaching and harmful misinterpretations that have been used to keep women trapped. Many members report a deeper, more authentic connection with God as they heal.
$0 upfront cost, but high
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For less than the cost of lunch at Panera, you can begin accessing tools, community, and coaching that have helped thousands of Christian women navigate the difficult decision of divorce. There’s no long-term commitment required—you can stay as long as the program continues to support your journey.
Every day you remain in confusion is another day of:
OR, one year from now you could be saying what thousands of Christian women can now say: “I finally feel validated, heard and understood. I have improved my self-talk and learned how to give myself what I used to need from others. Now I have my own back, own my choices, and let others have their feelings and life experiences. I think and feel different, and it’s such a relief!
Women who have found their way to Flying Free consistently say the same thing: “I wish I had found this sooner not only for my sake, but for the sake of my children.”
Dear Sister,
If you’ve read this far, I know something resonates with your experience. Perhaps you recognize yourself in the stories of women considering divorce, or maybe you’re still trying to make sense of whether divorce is the right path for you.
I remember standing exactly where you are now—torn between what I had been taught about being a “good Christian wife” and the reality of what was happening in my home. I remember the sleepless nights wondering if divorce was my only option, and if God would abandon me if I chose that path.
Flying Free exists because no woman should have to navigate that impossible decision alone. The community, courses, and coaching you’ll find here are exactly what I wish had existed when I was trying to decide whether divorce was necessary and biblical in my situation.
Whatever you decide about joining us, please know this: You are not crazy for considering divorce from an abusive relationship. You are not alone in this painful decision. And there is a path forward to the life God truly intends for you—one of dignity, clarity, and authentic joy—whether that includes divorce or not.
I hope to welcome you inside our community soon.
XOXO,
Natalie Hoffman
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