The Question Divorced Women Keep Asking (And the Better One to Ask Instead)
May 5, 2026
Today’s conversation is a kick in the pants AND a permission slip, all wrapped into one.
Today’s conversation is a kick in the pants AND a permission slip, all wrapped into one.
In her critique, author and Christian abuse advocate, Natalie Hoffman, challenges Ken Sande’s influential framework on marriage and divorce, arguing that it dangerously overlooks the realities of abuse. She highlights the critical need for the church to prioritize the safety and well-being of the vulnerable over institutional reputation. By exposing the harmful assumptions underlying Sande’s teachings, Hoffman calls for a more compassionate, biblically-rooted approach that truly supports those suffering in abusive relationships. This conversation is essential for anyone seeking to understand the complexities of marriage, divorce, and the church’s role in healing.
Most Christian women were never given permission to fully become themselves. Not as girls, not as wives, and not inside their churches. So when the marriage ends and the roles fall away, they’re left with a terrifying blank page and a question they don’t know how to answer: Who am I?
In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, we get real about a psychological process called individuation and why so many divorced Christian women are doing it for the very first time in midlife. We’ll walk through three critical mindset shifts, seven signs of a woman who’s becoming her own person, and three small but powerful practices you can start this week.
What if everything you’ve been told about financial devastation after divorce is wrong?
This season finale brings you something different: real stories from real divorced Christian women who rebuilt their financial lives from the ground up. Grace shares how she went from budget deficit to financial peace while taking it one small step at a time. Jenny reveals how she built a six-figure business starting with just an iPad in her bedroom after 36 years as a stay-at-home mom. Kimberly talks about moving into a $3,000 trailer and eventually buying her dream house. Diana explains how she transformed her relationship with money itself.
These aren’t fairy tales. These are messy, honest accounts of women who started with nothing, made mistakes, pivoted, learned, and kept going. No one ate cat food. No one ended up destitute. But they all had to get curious, ask questions, and take one brave step at a time.
What if everything you’ve been told about retirement is wrong—especially after divorce?
In this episode, Natalie and Diana explore why the traditional retirement model might actually be keeping you stuck in fear and financial anxiety. You’ll discover how retirement is just a cultural construct from 1889 that may not serve your post-divorce life at all—and what to do instead.
In Season 3, Episode 8 of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, Natalie and Diana sit down with Diane Wallenta, a certified divorce lending specialist with 25 years in the mortgage industry. If you’re confused about whether you can afford to buy, whether you’re “too old” to get a mortgage, or whether you should just keep renting, this conversation is for you.
You’ll learn the truth about age limits, what lenders actually look at when you’re divorced, how to rebuild your credit after divorce, and why your gut instinct about your budget matters more than what you “qualify” for. Diane breaks down the numbers without the intimidation and gives you the roadmap for making the housing decision that’s right for your unique situation.