Forgiveness is one of the ultimate Christian virtues, right after love. It “sets the prisoners free.” Except in your life. It keeps you defenseless and bound to a person, or people, determined to keep harming you. Forgiveness seems like a super highway to destruction, the restart button for more craziness and pain. So, should you keep forgiving someone who keeps hurting you…and how?
If a tennis player is playing a game with someone who isn’t hitting the ball back, is that person still a real tennis player? Emotional abuse victims are often labeled as codependent. But we’d like to make a case for the idea that some victims may just be playing tennis with the wrong player, and they aren’t codependent at all.
Are you a card-carrying member of the People-Pleaser’s Club? Here’s how and why the skill of saying “no” can set you free.
A reader asks, “I want to be loving and gentle. But how do you do that and yet also not let yourself be manipulated or taken advantage of?”
Let’s talk about that.
Emotional abuse tactics leave a target feeling confused and powerless. Learn strategies to help you recognize the tactics when they happen and respond from a place of clarity and power.
Learn the seven predictable things that happen when you set boundaries with an emotionally abusive partner. Knowing what to expect in advance will empower you to respond with emotional control and self-respect.
In an emotionally abusive marriage, you need to set boundaries with your partner. Here’s what to do if you get accused of “tearing down your house.”
Abusive people almost always demand reconciliation with their victims. Why is that? What is their motivation? And do victims owe their abusers trust and relationship after having prior trust and relationship violated over and over again?
How to politely and truthfully respond when good people use dumb cliche’s to defend wolves.