Let’s get honest—life after divorce can sometimes feel like you’ve been tossed into a game you never wanted to play, with rules nobody ever explained. You’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and wondering if the universe lost your instruction manual. You look around and think, “Is this seriously it?”
Well, friend, you’re not alone.
A couple of weeks ago, I taught a workshop to my Flying Higher mentorship community, diving deep into how our beliefs about our circumstances profoundly shape our emotional experiences and lives. Let me tell you—it was powerful stuff. Today, I want to share a bit of this magic with you through a relatable and oh-so-human story about Lauren.
Meet Lauren
Lauren had been divorced for two years. She was emotionally drained, financially strapped, and trying to make sense of a life that seemed nothing like she’d imagined. To make matters worse, she was grieving deeply because her adult children stopped speaking to her after her divorce. Sound familiar?
She often found herself staring at her kitchen table, bills scattered around her, thinking, “Life shouldn’t be this way. I should be further along. I just can’t do this.”
But one day, amidst yet another unexpected bill, Lauren had what we like to call a “lightbulb moment.” As she sat there feeling stuck and defeated, something clicked. She remembered a simple yet life-changing concept she’d encountered in my program: Radical Acceptance.
Radical Acceptance—The “Ah-ha” Moment
Here’s the sparkle: Lauren realized that her real issue wasn’t the unexpected bills, loneliness, or even the strained relationships. Her problem was her belief that life shouldn’t be the way it was. She was fighting reality, resisting what actually was, and—ironically—this resistance was exactly what kept her stuck.
She’d been telling herself she was powerless, and guess what? Her life mirrored that belief. But sitting at her cluttered kitchen table that day, Lauren asked herself a powerful question: “What if I accepted reality as it is right now? What if I let go of trying to change the things I cannot control and instead focused my energy on something I could change—starting with my beliefs?”
Suddenly, everything felt lighter.
Introducing the CLEAR Model
In our workshop, we explored how using the CLEAR model (a powerful tool I teach) can help clear up confusion by questioning and shifting painful beliefs.
Lauren decided she wasn’t a powerless victim—she was an empowered woman capable of making small yet meaningful changes, starting with her perspective. Her circumstances didn’t magically transform overnight, but her emotional landscape did. Anxiety began easing. Clarity emerged. Confidence grew.
Your Circumstances Are Temporary—Your Beliefs Have Lasting Power
Here’s a little secret I’ve learned from years of doing this work: your circumstances are constantly changing, but your beliefs have incredible staying power. They’re the hidden engine that drives your emotional state and your actions.
Lauren’s epiphany at the kitchen table wasn’t just a mindset shift; it was a life shift. She realized she had immense power, not over external events, but over how she chose to view and respond to them. This power belonged entirely to her.
And guess what? You have this same power.
Ready to Fly Higher?
If you’re nodding along, feeling a flutter in your heart, and thinking, “Yes, please!” I’d love to invite you into the Flying Higher mentorship community. It’s a supportive, encouraging space where women like you gather, heal, and grow. You’ll have access to nearly 200 classes (and I teach new classes every month!), monthly group coaching, and inspiring book and Bible studies. And yes, I promise we sprinkle in plenty of humor and encouragement along the way (because healing doesn’t have to feel like homework!).
It might sound pricey—but surprise! It’s only $59 per month or $590 for an entire year. That’s less than a month of 1:1 therapy, and it will 10X your progress when you take the things you’re learning into your therapy sessions.
Our theme in April is Inner Healing Work, the cornerstone for becoming the amazing, confident woman you’ll be a year from now. Check out joinflyinghigher.com to learn more and start your transformation today.
Beautiful butterfly, remember—you don’t have to navigate this alone. Let’s clear the confusion and rediscover your strength together. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.
Fly free, butterfly!
Natalie
