Natalie Hoffman, Author at Flying Free

Is the Cost to Leave an Abusive Marriage Worth It?

Why are you staying in your abusive marriage? For many women, the price to get free seems too high. They fear destitution, losing their children, revenge by their husband, more trauma and heartache, a scarlet “D” on their chests, the legal...

My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part Two

by Natalie Hoffman

If it’s true that we learn from our mistakes, then I know a whole heck of a lot. This episode, Part 2 of 2, is about the mistakes I made in church — the three main ways I lit myself on fire, with the encouragement of church leaders. All while...

My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part One

by Natalie Hoffman

Put your stretchy pants on, cause this episode’s a three-course dinner on what NOT to do once you realize your marriage is a hamster wheel of emotional abuse. These three mistakes caused me greater pain, for much longer. But I didn’t know...

How Pretending and Fear Keep You Stuck in Abuse Cycles (and What Sets You Free)

by Natalie Hoffman

Abusers are terrified. They mask their fear with rage, manipulation, false piety, and good ole-fashioned bullying. If they’re actually weak, scared babies, how are they so powerful and unchecked in churches (and in marriages)? Because you’re afraid...

Emotional Abuse Survivor Q&A

by Natalie Hoffman

If my husband has a mental health issue or a personality disorder, does that excuse his abusive behavior? My husband isn’t the typical abuser; is my marriage actually abusive or just bad? Am I wrong for wanting privacy that my husband demands I should give up?...