Welcome to the final episode of Season One of The Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! If you’ve made it through the first 365 days post-divorce without stabbing anyone (including yourself), congratulations. You’re our people. 

In our finale I gather a roundtable of warrior women (Diana, Loretta, Lisa, and Marie) to talk about what comes after the ashes. (And it’s NOT all sobbing into Häagen-Dazs while reading Leviticus. Haha)

What we talk about: 

• Finding yourself again (and realizing she’s kind of amazing)
• The joy of owning a dog (and a massage chair)
• Discovering that you’re capable of fixing doors, traveling alone, and hanging out with bears (on purpose)
• Reclaiming your space without needing anyone’s approval
• Forming deep, soul-filling friendships that you didn’t know were missing
• Letting go of the fear-based god to embrace the real one who’s been there all along
• Creating peaceful parenting vibes after the chaos of control

And by the way, wondering what’s coming in Season 2? We’re diving into relationships: with yourself, your kids (even the adult ones), your ex, your God, your church, and maybe that suspiciously hot barista who always remembers your name. Starts October 4, so mark your calendars.

Journal Questions: 

1. Think back to a moment after your divorce when you surprised yourself by doing something you never thought you could. What did you learn about your own strength and resilience from that experience?

2. What new routines or daily rituals have you created for yourself since your divorce that bring you peace, comfort, or a sense of joy? How do these reflect your needs and values now?

3. In what ways has your physical space (home, decor, belongings) changed to better reflect you—your tastes, personality, and desires—instead of someone else’s preferences?

4. What friendships or community connections have blossomed in your life since divorce? How have these relationships brought healing, growth, or a sense of belonging you didn’t have before?

5. How has your faith evolved since your divorce? Describe a moment when your connection with God felt real, new, or different. What does faith look like for you today, outside of old rules or shame?

6. If you’re parenting as a single mom, what is one win—big or small—you’ve experienced? How have you shown up for your children in ways you couldn’t before, and what did that reveal about your heart?

7. As you look forward, what kind of life do you want to build for yourself? What dreams or goals have emerged that you never allowed yourself to consider before? What is one small step you can take this week to move toward that vision?

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my personal mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development. Want to work with me? This is how!
• Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace. 
• Connect with Marie on her blog, Live Like it Matters, and website, Spiritual Direction with Marie.
• Listen to Diana’s podcast, the Renew Your Mind Podcast. 

• Connect with Lisa at her Linktree.
• Contact Loretta at [email protected] 
• Check out a Flying Free Podcast episode, “How Christian Women Resist Oppression in Their Marriages.”

Article: Your New Life Starts Now: Badass Moments from the First Year After Divorce

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but your post-divorce life doesn’t need to look like a Nicholas Sparks sob-fest where you stare into the distance while listening to Adele on repeat. (Unless, of course, that’s your vibe. No judgment.)

Season one of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast wrapped with a mic-drop finale: women boldly reclaiming their lives after divorce. Real women. Zero sugarcoating. Just a whole lot of “OMG, I actually did that?!”

The Fear-Fueled Road Trip… That Turned Into Liberation

Lisa kicked things off with a solo road trip from Wisconsin to North Carolina to get a dog. I know, that sounds innocent enough, but for someone who had never traveled solo before, this was her “Eat, Pray, Love” moment with less Italy and more I-65.

She nearly spiritualized herself out of the trip (classic move), but when her daughter bailed on joining her, Lisa decided she wasn’t going to let fear drive. Instead, she did. Literally. Through the snow. Alone. And yes, she cried in the mountains. Not out of fear, but freedom. Because for the first time, she realized it was just her, her dog, and God in the car, and that was enough.

Take that, co-dependency.

MacGyvering Doors with Divorce Binders

Meanwhile, Loretta pulled a boss move that HGTV should probably feature: fixing her busted front door using her divorce binder as a doorstop. I mean… is that not the most poetic justice you’ve ever heard?

“The gift that just keeps giving,” she said, laughing.

And it does. That binder? Once a painful symbol of endings, now a literal foundation for keeping her home secure. That’s what I call divine irony, folks.

Backpacking into Bear Country (Because Why Not?)

Then there’s Marie, who now books solo backpacking trips through actual bear country. I can’t even get up the nerve to camp in my backyard. She does it in the woods, off-grid, phone off, food hoisted high to ward off hungry wildlife. No anxiety. No hypervigilance. Just peace.

She went from “Will I survive this divorce?” to “Let me commune with God and possibly a black bear in the wild.”

You can’t make this stuff up.

Creating Sacred Self-Time

Diana, host of the Renew Your Mind Podcast, gifted herself 30 minutes every morning to just… be. No tasks. No expectations. Just a hot cup of tea with foamed cream (because bougie self-love is real love) and silence. And when she emerged from a depression after her divorce, she added strength training to the mix. Because why not be physically and emotionally ripped?

Decorating Without a Committee

One of the most liberating changes we all agreed on? Making our homes our own. No more consulting the peanut gallery of disapproval. No more, “Well, I guess I’ll return this because he doesn’t like blue.”

Now, we get to ask ourselves, “Do I like this?” And honestly, half the time the answer is, “I have no idea because I’ve never been allowed to ask that question before.” And that’s okay. Start with a candle. A t-shirt with sass. Or a welcome sign with a soccer ball instead of an ‘O’ (and don’t take it down just because your ex demanded it. Looking at you, Loretta.)

Rebuilding Community and Friendships

Here’s something nobody tells you when you get divorced: your social life doesn’t end. It begins. Most of us hadn’t had a real, vulnerable, “laugh until you pee a little” friend in years. Because when you’re constantly tiptoeing around someone else’s triggers, who has energy left for margaritas and meaningful connection?

Now? We’re hosting retreats, going to wine tastings, hiking with friends, and creating circles of intimacy that don’t require us to perform, appease, or shrink.

Redefining Faith Without the Fear

And let’s not ignore the faith piece. Because Christian divorce? It comes with an extra helping of shame, guilt, and judgmental side-eye from the pew in Row Three. We’ve all had to wrestle with our image of God, many of us realizing we weren’t actually wrestling with God, but with the internalized programming handed to us by patriarchy and religious performance culture.

You know, the version of God that says: “I love you, but not really since you got divorced.”

That’s not God. 

Our real God? He’s the one who sat quietly next to us when we couldn’t stop crying. He’s the one who didn’t leave when we yelled, “I can’t do this anymore.” He’s the one saying, “Hey daughter, I’m still here. Want to go for a walk?”

And now, finally, we’re walking in freedom, not because we’ve earned it, but because we’ve stopped hiding from it.

The Real Win? Being Seen and Loved As We Are

As a single mom, I’m watching my kids blossom because I’m not parenting from a place of fear anymore. I’m not micromanaging their morality or filtering their language or trying to protect them from the “world.” Instead, I’m offering them what I never had: a home filled with authenticity, laughter, and unconditional love.

Our family may not look like the stock photo in the Focus on the Family brochure, but we are whole. We are safe. We are thriving.

Your New Life? It Starts Now

So here’s your permission slip, my friend. You don’t have to wait until everything’s perfect. You don’t need your pastor’s blessing or your ex’s approval. Whether it’s a solo hike in bear country, a massage chair in your living room, or simply owning your morning tea ritual, you get to build this life on your terms.

You’re not just surviving: You’re flipping the script and writing a whole new story.

So go ahead. Buy the candle. Take the trip. Fix the door with your divorce binder. And for the love of God (literally), own your badassery.

Listen to (or watch!) us talk about all of this and more in today’s final season one episode of the Divorced Christian Woman podcast episode above.

Ready to go deeper? Join my private mentorship group, Flying Higher. 

And be sure to check out Diana’s podcast, Renew Your Mind, for weekly brain-rewiring magic!

Psst…What’s coming in Season 2?

We’re diving into relationships: with yourself, your kids (even the adult ones), your ex, your God, your church, and maybe that suspiciously hot barista who always remembers your name. Starts October 4, so mark your calendars!