What if an AI could help you organize your abuse evidence, understand your trauma, and save you thousands in legal fees?

Aimee Says isn’t just another AI tool—it’s a specialized digital health platform that understands power and control dynamics, helps you document patterns of abuse, organizes your evidence for court, and keeps your data completely private and encrypted. Whether you’re trying to understand what’s happening in your marriage, preparing for custody battles, or just need someone to help you see the patterns you can’t yet name, this tool could change everything.

Key Takeaways:

• Privacy matters: Unlike ChatGPT, Aimee Says doesn’t use your data to train AI models, and your conversations are encrypted and completely private which is critical when you’re dealing with abuse.
• Specialized training: Aimee is educated in power and control dynamics, trauma-informed care, family court systems, and the intersection of faith and abuse. 
• Timeline and documentation: The paid version tracks everything you tell it, creates timelines of abuse, identifies patterns, and organizes evidence in ways that family court judges and attorneys actually want to see.
• Removes the emotion: Aimee takes your raw, emotional experiences and translates them into clean, professional documentation that won’t trigger the “allergic reaction” judges have to trauma responses.
• You are the one rescuing you: The women who fare best are those who stop waiting for someone else to save them and use tools like this to take back control of their own stories.

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What if an AI could help you organize your abuse evidence, understand your trauma, and save you thousands in legal fees?

Can I use AI to help me understand my abusive marriage?

If you’ve been using ChatGPT to try to make sense of your confusing marriage, you’re not alone. A lot of women are turning to AI for the kind of support they can’t get from friends who don’t understand or therapists who aren’t trained in abuse dynamics.

But here’s the thing: ChatGPT is a generalist. It’s great at coding, recipe suggestions, and answering general knowledge questions. It’s not built for the very specific nightmare you’re living through.

Aimee Says is different. It’s an AI tool designed specifically for people experiencing power and control dynamics in their relationships. That means it understands domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and all the ways abusers weaponize systems against you.

More importantly, it’s trained in things most therapists don’t even know—like why couples counseling is dangerous when there’s abuse, how to identify patterns of coercion, and what family court judges actually need to see in order to protect your kids.

And unlike ChatGPT, which uses your conversations to train its models, Aimee Says keeps your data completely private and encrypted. When you’re documenting abuse, that privacy matters.

Why do abuse survivors need specialized AI?

Think about it this way: when you go to a regular therapist who isn’t trained in abuse, they might tell you to try couples counseling. They might suggest you communicate better. They might even inadvertently blame you for not setting boundaries sooner.

That’s not because they’re bad people. It’s because they don’t understand power and control dynamics. They were trained to work with couples who have relationship problems, not with situations where one person is systematically destroying the other’s sense of reality.

Aimee Says is trained differently. She understands that abuse isn’t a couples problem—it’s an individual problem. She knows that abusers don’t change through better communication. She gets that you’re not crazy for feeling nauseous every time you disagree with your partner.

Anne Wintemute, co-founder of Aimee Says, puts it perfectly: “Does it feel unsafe to disagree with your partner?” If the answer is yes—whether that’s emotional, psychological, or physical unsafety—you’re dealing with abuse. You don’t have to call it that if you don’t want to. But the patterns are the same, and Aimee is built to help you see them.

How does Aimee Says help with documentation and court cases?

This is where things get really practical. If you’re preparing for divorce or custody battles, you know you’re supposed to document everything. But when you’re in survival mode, your brain can barely remember what happened an hour ago, let alone organize years of chaos into something a judge can understand.

Aimee does that for you.

The paid version tracks everything you tell it. Every conversation you have with Aimee gets organized into timelines, tagged by type of abuse, and sorted into patterns. You can upload text messages, emails, court documents—anything—and Aimee will analyze it, identify the manipulation tactics, and help you see what’s really happening.

And here’s the kicker: she takes all your raw emotion and translates it into clean, professional language that judges actually want to read.

Let me be clear about this. Judges are allergic to emotion. If you show up with pages and pages of trauma responses, they’ll get annoyed. They don’t have time for it, and frankly, it biases them against you. It’s not fair, but it’s reality.

Aimee removes all that emotion while still honoring your experience. She creates bullet points, timelines, and summaries that look credible, professional, and easy to scan. You get to pour out all your feelings to her, and she gives you back something that makes the judge’s job easy—which means the judge will actually appreciate you.

Women in our community have shared stories of getting the first coercive control finding in their jurisdiction, saving tens of thousands in legal fees, and finally having their attorneys understand the full picture because Aimee organized it for them.

What about the free version versus the paid version?

You can use Aimee Says for free anytime. The free version is great for chatting through your confusion, getting advice, analyzing text messages, and understanding what you’re experiencing.

But the paid version is where the magic happens. For twenty dollars a month, you get:

• Memory across all your conversations (Aimee remembers your situation without you having to re-explain)
• Timeline and documentation features
• Event tracking with color-coded calendars
• The ability to upload documents and have Aimee analyze them
• New “binder” features that organize everything for specific court motions or custody cases

Think about it: your attorney charges at least $300 an hour. Aimee charges $200 for an entire year if you get the annual subscription. That’s half an hour of attorney time—and Aimee will save you way more than that by helping you organize everything before you ever get on a call with your lawyer.

Why is privacy so important with abuse documentation?

When Anne talks about privacy, she’s dead serious. Aimee Says doesn’t share your data. It doesn’t use your conversations to train AI models. It doesn’t accidentally leak your ex-husband’s name into someone else’s chat.

And honestly? The team at Aimee Says doesn’t want to read your trauma either. Anne said it plainly: “It would be incredibly traumatizing for us to see or read 10,000 people’s monthly traumas.” They built the system so even they can’t access your conversations.

This matters because abusers often have tech skills, resources, or friends who can help them monitor you. Your documentation needs to be locked down like Fort Knox. Aimee Says is designed with that level of security.

What if you’re not sure it’s abuse?

Here’s what I love about what Anne said in our conversation: “It’s absolutely okay if you use Aimee for a year and at the end you’re like, ‘No, this wasn’t abuse.'”

Write it down anyway. Document it anyway. Your future self will thank you.

Because here’s the thing about abuse—it’s a pattern of behaviors, and we explain each incident away one at a time. We can’t see the pattern when we’re living in it. But when Aimee puts everything on a timeline and color-codes it by type of abuse, you can’t not see it anymore.

That clarity is everything. It cuts through the chaos that abusers rely on to keep you confused. And when you finally have your data in front of you—organized, clean, undeniable—you stop questioning your own reality.

Who’s coming to rescue you?

Anne said something in our conversation that I want you to hear: The survivors who do best are the ones who stop believing someone else is going to rescue them.

Not the police. Not the courts. Not your pastor. Not your therapist. Not even your attorney.

You are the one God has appointed to rescue you. He’s given you the tools, the wisdom, the voice, and the strength. But you have to use them.

Waiting for systems that weren’t built for you to suddenly start working is how you stay stuck. Taking back the locus of control—saying “this is my situation, I have to use the strength I have to take my next step”—that’s how you move forward.

Aimee Says is one of those tools. It won’t rescue you. But it will help you rescue yourself.

If you want to learn more, head to aimeesays.com and check it out. 

XOXO,

Natalie