It took you years, decades maybe, to understand what you were going through.
It’s no wonder your kids don’t recognize emotional abuse for what it is.
Especially because they’re wired to trust their dad. They’re wired to need his love.
So they still call him good, loving even. They still think you and their dad should be together.
You know better.
And it’s agony.
What now?
As the year ends, the darkness grows. Minute by minute.
Just before Christmas is the longest night of the year.
The holidays are celebrations of love and generosity and joy.
But they’re also bleak and painful to many — like women going through separation and divorce.
So how do you cling to the hope of coming light in your blackest hours?
How do you live with the dark as you wait for the dawn?
Here’s my story and what I’ve learned.
Imagine carrying around a backpack full of books from high school.
You aren’t taking those classes anymore, but you always carry the weight anyway.
It digs into your shoulders. It makes you tired. Slows you down. Doesn’t let you truly rest. It keeps others from getting close.
Abuse is like that. It teaches us a lot—lessons no one should ever learn. And lessons we don’t even realize we’re still living out.
So we may escape abusive relationships, but we’re stuck in limbo, carrying the textbooks we think hold the truth about life, love, and ourselves.
Listen to this episode to learn how to be truly free from your past.
Lydia left her abusive husband.
Then she came back.
She found the guts to leave him again.
And returned another time.
In the end, it took SEVEN times for her to get free.
If you’ve been there or if you’re wondering whether you’ll ever get out too, she’s laying it all on the table in this episode.
The BEST PART? She’s thriving. And she’s no longer ashamed of her past.
Learn more about Lydia’s story in this episode and how you can thrive as well.
Do you picture yourself and your children begging on the streets if you dare to leave?
Are you overwhelmed at the thought of making ends meet as a single mom?
Do you wonder how you’ll pay for groceries, much less legal fees, if you escape?
One of the biggest fears for women in abusive marriages is that they won’t survive financially.
And it’s a fear based on a lot of truth.
But it’s not the final say.
Hear from a woman who’s been there, done, and literally wrote a book on it. So don’t turn back.
When you react to your husband’s abuse, it can feel like you’re the abuser.
When he tells you how hard his childhood was, you may feel sorry for him.
When you read about personality disorders, some of the symptoms fit you.
When you read about mental illness, the symptoms also fit him.
Which makes you wonder…
If your husband was abused, is it really fair to hold his harmful behavior against him?
If he has unresolved trauma or a personality disorder, is it wrong to expect him to treat you better?
And even more confusing…
What if your C-PTSD sometimes mimics a personality disorder?
What if your traumatic responses seem abusive?
Get the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, recommended by therapists. That chapter will help you figure out what’s going on in your marriage.
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