Three years since the divorce was finalized, and you’re still grinding your teeth at night and apologizing for things that aren’t your fault. What is going on? In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, Natalie Hoffman and Diana Swillinger tackle one of the most common and confusing questions from women who have finally gotten out: why doesn’t leaving make it stop?
Your brain knows the marriage is over. But your body hasn’t gotten that memo yet. And even when it does, it’s not flipping a switch for anybody. This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation on survival mode after divorce, and it begins with understanding why you’re still in it and what it’s doing to your daily life.
Key Takeaways:
- What did Natalie’s nervous system do while she was sitting in a Sicilian villa on a dream trip, and what does it reveal about why you can’t just “move on”?
- There is a specific type of trauma that forms inside long, destructive marriages, and once you understand what it is, everything about your body’s behavior starts to make sense.
- Six survival patterns that might be showing up in your daily life right now without you even recognizing them as trauma responses.
- Why the self-judgment you feel for not being “over it” isn’t a character flaw. It’s something that was handed to you, and tracing it back to the source changes everything.
- Diana froze completely for two days after a single casual sentence in a conversation. What she chose to do about it is worth hearing.
Related Resources:
- Flying Higher is our live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month.
- Be sure to check out Diana’s podcast, Renew Your Mind!
Do you have a question for the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast? Send me an email! natalie@flyingfreenow.com
