We want to believe we live in an advanced civilization—one that has risen above the base prejudice of our unenlightened ancestors. Human beings have a bent to marginalize other people. We want to be the best Sneetches on the beaches, after all.
Hit it with a hammer.
Done.
If only it were that easy.
In reality, the cycle of emotional and spiritual abuse feels like a freight train rushing down the tracks of your everyday. An unstoppable force. And if you stand in its way, you’ll be run down. A sad little pancake beholden to the destructive patterns you’ve existed in since…who knows when.
My dear. You forgot about two things.
First: You can’t stop that train.
Second: You don’t need to stop that train to heal and be free and come into your power.
Remember the handle thingy on the side of the tracks, controlling the railroad switch?
Yup. Start there.
Have you suffered the debilitating loss of your church family? This can be a traumatic experience that takes a lifetime to process. Find out why, and how you can think about this in a way that empowers you to love more and experience peace in spite of the pain.
When you react to your husband’s abuse, it can feel like you’re the abuser.
When he tells you how hard his childhood was, you may feel sorry for him.
When you read about personality disorders, some of the symptoms fit you.
When you read about mental illness, the symptoms also fit him.
Which makes you wonder…
If your husband was abused, is it really fair to hold his harmful behavior against him?
If he has unresolved trauma or a personality disorder, is it wrong to expect him to treat you better?
And even more confusing…
What if your C-PTSD sometimes mimics a personality disorder?
What if your traumatic responses seem abusive?
It took 11 words to change the world. 11 words misinterpreted. 11 words misunderstood. 11 words manipulated.
A single sentence from the mouth of God to the first woman…Eve. A pronouncement. A prediction. A curse. Or was it?
Do you know these words?
Prepare yourself. Because you’re about to learn their TRUE meaning.
It might blow. your. mind. And it will change the world…again.
Have you ever talked to people who weren’t there? Imagined conversations in your head? Perfected your argument while showering or lying in bed?
I did that…and made it into a podcast.
But this conversation isn’t with just one person. It’s with tens of thousands of people. Pastors.
Because the survivor community knows the price of patriarchy in the church. We know the cost of being controlled. We know the damage of being devalued. And pastors NEED to KNOW this too.
Get the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, recommended by therapists. That chapter will help you figure out what’s going on in your marriage.
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