In her critique, author and Christian abuse advocate, Natalie Hoffman, challenges Ken Sande’s influential framework on marriage and divorce, arguing that it dangerously overlooks the realities of abuse. She highlights the critical need for the church to prioritize the safety and well-being of the vulnerable over institutional reputation. By exposing the harmful assumptions underlying Sande’s teachings, Hoffman calls for a more compassionate, biblically-rooted approach that truly supports those suffering in abusive relationships. This conversation is essential for anyone seeking to understand the complexities of marriage, divorce, and the church’s role in healing.