Part of growing up into your full stature of healthy emotional adulthood involves this important work of setting boundaries.
Patrick Doyle has over thirty years of working with people from all over in treatment centers, churches, and through his office. His authentic and transparent way of leadership has drawn followers from all over the world. As a public speaker and coach, Patrick takes difficult conversations head on; communicating hard truths with honesty and safety. He is passionate about connecting with people so that they may see their individual value and as a result, experience the freedom from the lies that destroy their wellness of spirit. His hope is that people will partner with him in helping others see, believe, and act on their intrinsic value.
You’ve been telling him for years how hurtful his behavior is. Literally begging him to stop. It’s like beating your head against a wall. You’ve reached your breaking point. Then he tosses out a question your heart longed to hear from the beginning:
“What can I do to fix this?”
Right at the end. Right before your feet hit the pavement. Right before you’ve given up.
What if I lose my kids? How can I stand up for myself in the process of divorce when my husband seems to hold all the cards? How will I keep it together as I climb this ladder out of hell? These questions haunt women in abusive marriages who want to escape.
There is hope and there are answers.
Trust is risk. Trust forces us to decide what we believe, make choices based on those beliefs, and respect what others choose to believe and do. We aren’t called to control others, please everybody, or even defend our decisions. But we are called to live bravely using the knowledge, experience, and power we have.
Why do Christian women tend to be people pleasers? And how can they recover from the exhaustion and frustration of having to make everyone happy all the time?
Forgiveness is one of the ultimate Christian virtues, right after love. It “sets the prisoners free.” Except in your life. It keeps you defenseless and bound to a person, or people, determined to keep harming you. Forgiveness seems like a super highway to destruction, the restart button for more craziness and pain. So, should you keep forgiving someone who keeps hurting you…and how?
If a tennis player is playing a game with someone who isn’t hitting the ball back, is that person still a real tennis player? Emotional abuse victims are often labeled as codependent. But we’d like to make a case for the idea that some victims may just be playing tennis with the wrong player, and they aren’t codependent at all.
Are you a card-carrying member of the People-Pleaser’s Club? Here’s how and why the skill of saying “no” can set you free.