Survivor Identity Archives

Creating New Friendships as a Divorced Christian Woman

December 19, 2025

So, you got divorced and your social life went up in flames. Welcome to the club, friend. Pull up a chair.

In this season finale, I sit down with my friend Diana Swillinger (host of The Renew Your Mind Podcast) to talk about something every divorced woman eventually faces: the weird, wonderful, terrifying world of making new friends when you’re a whole new person.

We talk about the great scattering (as Mel Robbins calls it), how to let go of draining friendships without guilt, and why being rejected might not actually kill you. If you’re feeling lonely, wondering where your people went, or ready to rebuild your community from scratch with people who actually see you, this episode is the warm hug and gentle shove you need.

And don’t worry, introverts, we’ve got you too. You can still want deep connection without having to attend a single church potluck ever again. Promise.

Your Relationship with Yourself: Learning to Like (and Love) Who You Are Again

December 12, 2025

What if the most important relationship you’ll ever have isn’t the one with your ex, your pastor, or even your cat, but the one with yourself? (I know, scandalous.)

In this episode, I’m joined by three divorced Christian women, Barb, Diana, and Lisa, to unpack what it really looks like to reconnect with yourself after decades of religious programming and marital trauma.

Whether you’re eight days or eight years post-divorce, this episode is your permission slip to stop apologizing for existing and start building a fierce, compassionate relationship with the one person who will always be there: YOU.

Breaking the Cycle of Fear, Obligation, and Guilt: Gwendoline’s Story [Episode 354]

November 18, 2025

Ever wonder why you keep getting stuck in the same soul-sucking relational merry-go-round and can’t get off? Why you feel like you’re starring in a never-ending soap opera you didn’t audition for, but somehow you’re the villain for wanting out?

I sat down with Gwendoline, a longtime member of Flying Free and Flying Higher, to talk about her epic butterfly transformation. We’re talking cycles of chaos, religious gaslighting, and the sneaky little acronym that kept her trapped in marital misery: FOG (fear, obligation, guilt).

Why Some People Change and Others Don’t [Episode 353]

November 11, 2025

It’s time to talk about the two kinds of people in this world: the seekers and the stuck.

In this episode, I dive deep into the real reasons why some lives transform after abuse while others continue to feel stuck.

Your New Life Starts Now

August 22, 2025

Welcome to the final episode of Season One of The Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! If you’ve made it through the first 365 days post-divorce without stabbing anyone (including yourself), congratulations. You’re our people.

In our finale I gather a roundtable of warrior women (Diana, Loretta, Lisa, and Marie) to talk about what comes after the ashes. (And it’s NOT all sobbing into Häagen-Dazs while reading Leviticus. Haha)

Who Am I Without Him?

June 20, 2025

Ever looked around your post-divorce life and thought, “Who even am I without that man-child?” Same. In this episode, Diana and I peel back the layers of Christian programming, people-pleasing trauma responses, and overfunctioning-for-Jesus syndrome to tackle the real question: Who am I when I’m not trying to fix someone else’s broken masculinity?
Together, we talk about identity loss in marriage, the process of deprogramming, and how to reclaim your God-given essence one small boundary and one journal prompt at a time. With warmth and truth bombs, this conversation is basically free therapy.

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