Survivor Identity Archives

Finding Your Freedom, Autonomy, and Independence – High Functioning Women Series Part Four [Episode 377]

May 26, 2026

This is part four of the High Functioning Christian Women in Destructive Marriages series, and today we talk about a concept that ties the whole series together: sovereignty.

Synonyms for sovereignty include: freedom, autonomy, and independence.

If you’ve spent years managing everyone’s needs, shrinking your own, and building an identity around your capacity to give without limit, this episode will challenge a misunderstood theology that was never meant for women who are already pouring out from an empty cup.

The Question Divorced Women Keep Asking (And the Better One to Ask Instead)

May 5, 2026

Today’s conversation is a kick in the pants AND a permission slip, all wrapped into one.

Did You Ever Really Grow Up? The Truth About Individuation After Divorce

April 21, 2026

Most Christian women were never given permission to fully become themselves. Not as girls, not as wives, and not inside their churches. So when the marriage ends and the roles fall away, they’re left with a terrifying blank page and a question they don’t know how to answer: Who am I?

In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, we get real about a psychological process called individuation and why so many divorced Christian women are doing it for the very first time in midlife. We’ll walk through three critical mindset shifts, seven signs of a woman who’s becoming her own person, and three small but powerful practices you can start this week.

Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Abuse in a Christian Home – Emotional Abuse 101 | Part 8 [Episode 363]

January 20, 2026

How do you actually break free from emotional and spiritual abuse in your Christian home?

Most Christian women stay stuck because nobody tells them the truth: breaking free requires three specific stages.

In this episode, you’ll find out why you keep falling for the “honeymoon phase” trap, what you need to do first before anything else, and why writing everything down literally saves your sanity. This isn’t feel-good advice. This is the actual path thousands of women have walked to get out and stay out.

Creating New Friendships as a Divorced Christian Woman

December 19, 2025

So, you got divorced and your social life went up in flames. Welcome to the club, friend. Pull up a chair.

In this season finale, I sit down with my friend Diana Swillinger (host of The Renew Your Mind Podcast) to talk about something every divorced woman eventually faces: the weird, wonderful, terrifying world of making new friends when you’re a whole new person.

We talk about the great scattering (as Mel Robbins calls it), how to let go of draining friendships without guilt, and why being rejected might not actually kill you. If you’re feeling lonely, wondering where your people went, or ready to rebuild your community from scratch with people who actually see you, this episode is the warm hug and gentle shove you need.

And don’t worry, introverts, we’ve got you too. You can still want deep connection without having to attend a single church potluck ever again. Promise.

Your Relationship with Yourself: Learning to Like (and Love) Who You Are Again

December 12, 2025

What if the most important relationship you’ll ever have isn’t the one with your ex, your pastor, or even your cat, but the one with yourself? (I know, scandalous.)

In this episode, I’m joined by three divorced Christian women, Barb, Diana, and Lisa, to unpack what it really looks like to reconnect with yourself after decades of religious programming and marital trauma.

Whether you’re eight days or eight years post-divorce, this episode is your permission slip to stop apologizing for existing and start building a fierce, compassionate relationship with the one person who will always be there: YOU.

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