Survivor Identity Archives

Breaking the Cycle of Fear, Obligation, and Guilt: Gwendoline’s Story [Episode 354]

November 18, 2025

Ever wonder why you keep getting stuck in the same soul-sucking relational merry-go-round and can’t get off? Why you feel like you’re starring in a never-ending soap opera you didn’t audition for, but somehow you’re the villain for wanting out?

I sat down with Gwendoline, a longtime member of Flying Free and Flying Higher, to talk about her epic butterfly transformation. We’re talking cycles of chaos, religious gaslighting, and the sneaky little acronym that kept her trapped in marital misery: FOG (fear, obligation, guilt).

Why Some People Change and Others Don’t [Episode 353]

November 11, 2025

It’s time to talk about the two kinds of people in this world: the seekers and the stuck.

In this episode, I dive deep into the real reasons why some lives transform after abuse while others continue to feel stuck.

Your New Life Starts Now

August 22, 2025

Welcome to the final episode of Season One of The Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! If you’ve made it through the first 365 days post-divorce without stabbing anyone (including yourself), congratulations. You’re our people.

In our finale I gather a roundtable of warrior women (Diana, Loretta, Lisa, and Marie) to talk about what comes after the ashes. (And it’s NOT all sobbing into Häagen-Dazs while reading Leviticus. Haha)

Who Am I Without Him?

June 20, 2025

Ever looked around your post-divorce life and thought, “Who even am I without that man-child?” Same. In this episode, Diana and I peel back the layers of Christian programming, people-pleasing trauma responses, and overfunctioning-for-Jesus syndrome to tackle the real question: Who am I when I’m not trying to fix someone else’s broken masculinity?
Together, we talk about identity loss in marriage, the process of deprogramming, and how to reclaim your God-given essence one small boundary and one journal prompt at a time. With warmth and truth bombs, this conversation is basically free therapy.

How Christian Women Resist Oppression in Their Marriages [Episode 328]

May 20, 2025

So many of you come to me and say things like, “Natalie, I was such a doormat. I just stood there and let it all happen.”
Listen up, beautiful butterfly: You didn’t “just stand there.” You were resisting the entire time, and no one told you that’s what it was. Until now.
In this episode, I shine a flashlight on the small but powerful acts of resistance Christian women pull off daily in emotionally and spiritually abusive marriages. We’re talking journal-hiding, secret-crying, sanity-preserving, Jesus-whispering defiance that deserves a standing ovation—but probably got met with church lady side-eye instead.

How Creativity Can Help You Heal from Emotional and Spiritual Abuse

March 8, 2025

Creativity isn’t just for artists—it’s for anyone who wants to reclaim their life after emotional or spiritual abuse. In The Creative Act, Rick Rubin reminds us that creativity isn’t about talent; it’s about being open, trusting yourself, and engaging with life on your own terms. If you’ve spent years being told who you should be, creativity is the antidote to that shrinking. Let’s explore how creativity can help you heal, rediscover your true self, and step into freedom.

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