I Can’t Be Perfect Enough for My Husband


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Do you feel like you can’t be perfect enough for your husband? Have you felt weighed down by impossible, always-changing standards of perfection, depending on who you’re dealing with? Rachel and Natalie discuss the insanity of this common tactic of the enemy to steal your joy and neutralize your power.

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    I would say also that “we can’t grieve however we want”. But my first thought is that many times, we don’t always get full choice in the matter, at least not initially. Perhaps many people find that they go through stages of grief in a way that seems too long, too short, too intense or too chaotic. Every loss is different and so the process is different ever time for everyone. So how am I supposed to tell another how to grieve? While there’s no set way of navigating the stages of grief, that is not to say that we’re not responsible for what we do while grieving. One could say drinking excessively is not an appropriate way to grieve. Certainly there are unhealthy ways of coping with grief and they can lead to negative outcomes, like grief disorder. Hopefully we save the “suck it up” talks for the truly trivial matters in life.

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    I would highly recommend watching the movie “12 Years a Slave”. I wept as I watched this freeman’s life being taken from him bit by bit. It is a strong visual to what we experience in our toxic relationships. So powerful. May trigger some to watch it.

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    “My idea of God is not a divine idea. It has to be shattered time after time. He shatters it Himself.”
    ― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

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    “Getting over it so soon? But the words are ambiguous. To say the patient is getting over it after an operation for appendicitis is one thing; after he’s had his leg off is quite another. After that operation either the wounded stump heals or the man dies. If it heals, the fierce, continuous pain will stop. Presently he’ll get back his strength and be able to stump about on his wooden leg. He has ‘got over it.’ But he will probably have recurrent pains in the stump all his life, and perhaps pretty bad ones; and he will always be a one-legged man. There will be hardly any moment when he forgets it. Bathing, dressing, sitting down and getting up again, even lying in bed, will all be different. His whole way of life will be changed. All sorts of pleasures and activities that he once took for granted will have to be simply written off. Duties too. At present I am learning to get about on crutches. Perhaps I shall presently be given a wooden leg. But I shall never be a biped again.”
    ― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

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    Thanks so much ladies for the reminder that we follow Jesus and not man. I bought the book recommended by Rachel.


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