A series exposing actual stupid things Christians say to women in abusive marriages. Today we look at two: “If you gave your husband more respect, he’d love you,” and “if you submitted to the authority of your church, you’d get the help you need.” Could someone hand me a bucket?
After decades of dealing with your husband’s covert control, silent treatment, criticism, passive aggressive behavior, lies, and refusal to take responsibility for anything, you have made the terrifying decision to get out, and now you are on your own. Either your husband has left (and told everyone you abusively kicked him out) or he has forced you to leave (and told everyone that you have abusively abandoned him.) The smear campaign begins even while you begin the life-long process of picking up all the pieces. You have eight kids living at home. You get to pick up their pieces too.
Spiritual abuse comes from a false church that doesn’t represent the truth about Jesus. Here’s a thank you to both the true and false churches for what they taught me.
Let’s analyze the spiritual abuse in an article called “We Can’t Grieve However We Want.” Because I say Poppycock!
Feelings of worthlessness come from the stories others have told us about ourselves over the years. Here’s a different story.
There is a cancer growing unseen and silent in the Church. It has embedded itself so strongly in the fabric of the church that many Christians believe it is part of the church itself. That without it, the church would be destroyed from the inside out.
But the opposite is true. This cancer is telling a lie about God (blaspheming), destroying the children of God, and creating a huge barrier in the spread of the gospel.
Get the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, recommended by therapists. That chapter will help you figure out what’s going on in your marriage.
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