Emotional abuse kills you one nibble at a time. It’s not like physical abuse where a big shark comes up behind you and chomps off your leg. No, emotional abuse is more like a gnat bite. You can barely see the little bugger until you feel the bite. Just a tiny bite. No big deal.
If you’re like me, you were set up for your abusive marriage in the name of love.
You thought people were teaching you godly womanhood and wisdom.
You thought following the rules meant you’d experience bliss and peace in marriage.
You thought you were honoring God by letting people harm you.
But you were really just betraying yourself and holding the doors open for your own destruction.
So if you’re ready to change your role, this is for you.
If you’re ready to experience real, lasting change, this is for you.
If you played the part and followed the rules and were the poster child for humility, long-suffering, and submission, but everything came crashing down anyway, THIS IS FOR YOU.
Do you wonder why you feel so angry and defeated about the way your husband treats you?
It’s not cause you were a closet rage monster before you got married. It’s not cause you’re crazy or demanding or that you just love drama.
He’s been stomping in your flower beds.
And YOU’VE been told that you had to leave the garden gate open in order to be a good wife and a good Christian.
If you’ve been wondering “Is it me?” then let’s make sense of your confusing marriage in this two-part episode.
The holidays can make the hard things harder. The sad things, sadder. The family fights and frustrations and fractures, bigger and deeper and wider.
They often remind you of all you’ve lost and all you never had. Especially in relationships.
Maybe they used to be a time of excitement and joy, but now you only feel dread and loneliness and grief.
If you find yourself wishing you could sleep until January comes around, or your eyes well up whenever you imagine how miserable these “special” days will be, gather round.
This episode is a warm blanket snuggled around your shoulders, a mug of hot cocoa in your hands, and a sweet gift-wrapped dose of hope from me…to you.
Imagine carrying around a backpack full of books from high school.
You aren’t taking those classes anymore, but you always carry the weight anyway.
It digs into your shoulders. It makes you tired. Slows you down. Doesn’t let you truly rest. It keeps others from getting close.
Abuse is like that. It teaches us a lot—lessons no one should ever learn. And lessons we don’t even realize we’re still living out.
So we may escape abusive relationships, but we’re stuck in limbo, carrying the textbooks we think hold the truth about life, love, and ourselves.
Listen to this episode to learn how to be truly free from your past.
If you’re like most Christian women in confusing and painful marriages, you’ve tried everything.
You’ve read the books, the blogs, the sarcastic memes, and the devotionals.
You’ve paid for counseling, training, seminars, and conferences.
You’ve asked for advice from other couples, your parents, your pastors, friends.
You’ve prayed and read your Bible and journaled, cried, and begged.
But your marriage never changes. Or it just gets worse.
So what’s the REAL ANSWER? What’s THE ONE THING YOU’RE MISSING?
It’s simple. It’s free. It’s right in front of you.
