Category: Rebuilding

Natalie Hoffman Flying Free Podcast Episode 390 with the text "How to Deal with Triggers that Make You Spiral Out"

How to Deal with Triggers that Make You Spiral Out [Episode 390]

This is the second in a 3-part series where I’m sharing the top three books that have changed my life. Last week I talked about the book A Failure of Nerve by Edwin Friedman. This week I will talk about Altogether You by Jenna Remiersma. And next week…well, you’ll have to come back then to hear me talk about a VERY controversial book in conservative Christian circles, but WOW did it absolutely do a number on my chronic fear, shame, and anger.

But for now – let’s dive into a book that helped me make sense of the contradictory thoughts I struggled with every single day.

“I can totally do this!” “I could NEVER DO THAT!”

See what I mean?

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Natalie Hoffman Flying Free Podcast Episode 389 with the text "Why Do People Get Mad When You Change?"

Why Do People Get Mad When You Change? [Episode 389]

A lot of people got mad at me when I started to change over ten years ago. They got so mad, they booted me out of my church and my family. In this episode, I’m going to tell you about a book that changed the way I parent, lead, and show up in my own life.

It’s a book about what it actually takes to become the leader of your own life when everyone around you wants things to stay the same.

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Natalie Hoffman Flying Free Podcast Episode 386 with the text 4 Types of Trauma Bond Withdrawal Symptoms You Need to Know

4 Types of Trauma Bond Withdrawal Symptoms You Need to Know [Episode 386]

If you are stepping away from an emotionally or spiritually destructive marriage and suddenly feel hit by severe anxiety, physical illness, obsessive thoughts, or a desperate urge to run back, you may be experiencing trauma bond withdrawal.

When a relationship alternates between unpredictable emotional mistreatment and periods of seeming “niceness,” your body builds a biological and neurochemical dependency on that cycle. Breaking free triggers a physical and emotional detox.

This episode is a faith-informed, clinically grounded guide to understanding trauma bond withdrawal symptoms, dismantling weaponized scripture, and restoring your nervous system.

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How to Feel Safe Again After Divorce

How to Feel Safe Again After Divorce

Last week was the why. This week is the what now. In Part 2 of this conversation, Natalie Hoffman and Diana Swillinger get practical about what it actually takes to move your nervous system from a state of constant threat management into something that feels like real life. And they go somewhere unexpected: the resistance to joy itself.

This is not a list of lofty advice. These are specific, doable practices that teach your body moment by moment that it is safe to let its guard down. There is also a deeper question: is “survival mode” even still the right story for where you are now?

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The Divorce Is Over… So Why Am I Still in Survival Mode?

The Divorce Is Over… So Why Am I Still in Survival Mode?

Three years since the divorce was finalized, and you’re still grinding your teeth at night and apologizing for things that aren’t your fault. What is going on? In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, Natalie Hoffman and Diana Swillinger tackle one of the most common and confusing questions from women who have finally gotten out: why doesn’t leaving make it stop?

Your brain knows the marriage is over. But your body hasn’t gotten that memo yet. And even when it does, it’s not flipping a switch for anybody. This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation on survival mode after divorce, and it begins with understanding why you’re still in it and what it’s doing to your daily life.

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Learn How to Get Into Enjoying Your Free Time!

Learn How to Get Into Enjoying Your Free Time!

You finally have a Saturday to yourself. The kids are gone. The house is quiet. And somehow… you end up on your phone for three hours feeling guilty. Sound familiar? There is something happening in your brain that’s worth understanding.

In this episode, Natalie and Diana Swillinger dig into the science behind why divorced Christian women struggle to enjoy their own free time, and why the solution isn’t a better to-do list. If you’ve ever felt frozen when you finally had space to breathe, this conversation was made for you.

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