It’s like my husband spent our marriage throwing gasoline all over our home. Nobody could see it, but I could smell the fumes. They threatened to suffocate me. I knew that if I lit a match to illuminate the truth about the gasoline, I would burn our home down. I was warned, in so many words, never to light that match.
Exploring Emotional Abuse
The only way out of hell is up a very hot ladder, and you need to be EMPOWERED to climb that ladder and get out. You need to be PREPARED with a working knowledge of every single hot rung you will have to endure on your way up and out.
There are four ways to respond to emotional abuse. Which way is your usual style? Find out how you can change it up in order to experience more freedom and peace.
Here are seven indicators that the guy you’re dating is a Christian narcissist, and your relationship is toxic.
If your partner won’t take responsibility for his behavior but denies, justifies, and blame shifts, you are being emotionally abused.
How do you respond when your partner sends you two totally different messages? One message says he loves you and will do anything to make things right. The other message says you’re making a big deal out of nothing, and you’re actually the problem. Which message is true?
You’ve been telling him for years how hurtful his behavior is. Literally begging him to stop. It’s like beating your head against a wall. You’ve reached your breaking point. Then he tosses out a question your heart longed to hear from the beginning:
“What can I do to fix this?”
Right at the end. Right before your feet hit the pavement. Right before you’ve given up.
When Lynn, a widow and registered nurse, met her abuser for the first time, she thought he was a safe bet. Who could be safer than a pastor and former missionary? But once he had her hooked in, he tore down her dignity and identity through shaming and neglect. Lynn shares her long journey of waking up to the shocking reality that even religious leaders can be wolves in sheep’s clothing.
You’re the problem. An angry woman, a discontent wife, a troublemaker, the ungodly one. You’ve heard this over and over, in your mind, at church, and from your husband. Why can’t you get it together? Where do all the rage, frustration, and ugliness come from?
What if the question is the answer?
Abusers don’t ask if they are abusive.
Natalie, Daphne, and Rachel discuss the common reactions women have in destructive marriages that bring shame and confusion.