Exploring Emotional Abuse

Who Burned the House Down?

It’s like my husband spent our marriage throwing gasoline all over our home. Nobody could see it, but I could smell the fumes. They threatened to suffocate me. I knew that if I lit a match to illuminate the truth about the gasoline, I would burn our home down. I was warned, in so many words, never to light that match.

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Why Do I Feel Like I’m Going Crazy in My Marriage?

How do you respond when your partner sends you two totally different messages? One message says he loves you and will do anything to make things right. The other message says you’re making a big deal out of nothing, and you’re actually the problem. Which message is true?

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What Is Emotional Manipulation?

You’ve been telling him for years how hurtful his behavior is. Literally begging him to stop. It’s like beating your head against a wall. You’ve reached your breaking point. Then he tosses out a question your heart longed to hear from the beginning:

“What can I do to fix this?”

Right at the end. Right before your feet hit the pavement. Right before you’ve given up.

What now?

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When Your Abusive Husband Is a Pastor

When Lynn, a widow and registered nurse, met her abuser for the first time, she thought he was a safe bet. Who could be safer than a pastor and former missionary? But once he had her hooked in, he tore down her dignity and identity through shaming and neglect. Lynn shares her long journey of waking up to the shocking reality that even religious leaders can be wolves in sheep’s clothing.

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Am I the Problem in My Marriage?

You’re the problem. An angry woman, a discontent wife, a troublemaker, the ungodly one. You’ve heard this over and over, in your mind, at church, and from your husband. Why can’t you get it together? Where do all the rage, frustration, and ugliness come from?
What if the question is the answer?
Abusers don’t ask if they are abusive.
Natalie, Daphne, and Rachel discuss the common reactions women have in destructive marriages that bring shame and confusion.

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