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Episode 22 – Should You Keep Hoping for Change? (and other questions!)

by | Jun 7, 2019 | Learning, Listener Questions, The Flying Free Podcast, Waking Up | 1 comment

In episode 22 of the Flying Free podcast, Natalie and Rachel answer four questions from listeners:

1. Why do I still keep hoping my abusive spouse will change?
2. Are there book suggestions for abusive men?
3. Should I “take up my cross” and suffer – or get out of abuse?
4. Help me deal with all the sad feelings I have living with abuse!


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1 Comment

  1. Cyndee

    Hi Natalie and Rachel. I I am already signed up to your website and listen to you guys over and over. You are right on target with all of your teachings especially about how the church treats abuse. I love my church and I actually was a volunteer counselor/Encourager for the Care department of our church. They knew I was in an abusive relationship when I came on board but suddenly after three years it became an issue and I was put on sabbatical to work on my marriage. By that time I had already decide to “leave well.” Devastated does not describe how I felt since I battled rejection and abandonment years ago prior to 22 years in Al-Anon and learn the tools to fight those demons. However, everyone on the care team was like my family and I loved them all dearly. They were supposed to encourage me while I was on sabbatical, but no one did. Yet they expected the marriage to heal. I knew the marriage was over and it is now. I felt like an orphan put out to pasture by the Care team. I recently just resigned being on the team because I could see no end to my sabbatical. I’m good at what I do and I know that because I have emails to the Care director from the people I have encouraged plus the care team has recognized how good I work with these women. I am sure the 12 steps of the Al-Anon program helped me very much combining it with biblical scripture. I wanted to start a support group for abused women and hit a brick wall with my church, which is a mega church . Now I’m in limbo after the divorce and don’t know how to help others as I am healing. Yes God blesses me with people he sends my way who need encouragement but I hope one day I can possibly join a team like yours and Leslie Vernick’s team to help The many many people out there who are being abused and don’t even know why like myself. I think you from the bottom of my heart! Be blessed in Christ


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