Listener Questions Archives

Emotional and Spiritual Abuse Survivor Q&A [Episode 282]

July 2, 2024

Here are some of the questions I answered in today’s episode:

– Should I tell my adult children and close friends about the hidden emotional abuse I’m experiencing?
– I feel guilty because we’re in the middle of the divorce process, but all of a sudden, my husband has started being nicer than he’s ever been!
– Why am I so afraid to tell my husband that I am done with the marriage?
– How do I avoid being triggered in a situation where my needs are being ignored or misunderstood?
– Is my husband abusive, or just selfish and immature?
– And MORE!

Teaching Children the CBT Model Tool [Episode 276]

May 21, 2024

Today I’m going to teach you how to use the same CBT triangle tool I use with the women I work with, my kids, and even myself to help us all understand and gain self-awareness around our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

This CBT tool has three parts that can assist you in changing the way you think, and as a result, change your life and the lives of your kids.

Does an Abuser Know They Are Abusive? [Episode 268]

March 26, 2024

In today’s episode, I answer more listener questions from women just like you who are trying to figure out what is happening inside of their painful and confusing marriage. If you want to leave a question for me to answer on the Flying Free Podcast, I would love to hear from you! Here are the questions being addressed today:

– Is my husband emotionally abusive or is it possible that he’s just emotionally weak and unavailable due to his own past and trauma that he hasn’t dealt with yet?

– Does my husband abuse me on purpose? Does he know what he’s doing?

– How do I know it’s time to leave my abusive husband?

– Has my abusive husband actually changed, or is he a fraud?

What if My Husband Removed My Access to Money, a Phone, and More? [Episode 253]

December 12, 2023

One of the biggest hurdles to getting out of an abusive relationship is money. Today I’m answering two listener questions related to this issue.

“Do I need to submit to having my credit and debit cards taken away and no access to money?”

“How do I launch myself financially after having no experience with money?”

These are very common questions emotional abuse survivors have, and I want to answer them in today’s episode.

Answers to Six Emotional Abuse Survivor Questions [Episode 251]

November 28, 2023

Today’s episode is taken from a live Q&A I did a couple of months ago within the Flying Free program. In this episode, I cover the following issues:

– I keep feeling like his sadness, loss, and grief over losing me are all my fault.
– All of a sudden, my husband has a lawyer and a few other suspicious things going on. I know I need a lawyer now too, but I don’t have any money and I don’t have any time, and I’m stuck.
– I’m having a hard time speaking my own opinions without stumbling over my words.
– I feel selfish for wanting a divorce, and I feel resentful that it’s dragging out.
– I’m in an abusive marriage and I’m struggling with how not to feel hurt or react to the ways that he is harming me.
– I’ve spent the last three years dragging my feet about filing for divorce. How do I move forward?

I Don’t Consider Myself to be a Victim, so How Do I Accept the Reality of my Abusive Relationship? [Episode 249]

November 14, 2023

Many emotional abuse victims have been accused of having a victim mentality—as if the abuse isn’t real. Some victims don’t like to be labeled a “victim.” It sounds weak and powerless. Recently, one of my listeners asked this question: “How do we accept the reality of abuse without living as a victim?”

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