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Neighbors, Acquaintances, and Small Town Gossip: Living Free in a Fishbowl

Neighbors, Acquaintances, and Small Town Gossip: Living Free in a Fishbowl

So you got divorced, and now you’re the scandal of the century in your tiny town (or tight church circle). You’re dodging judgmental glances in the grocery store and wondering if your prayer request just got broadcasted as Christian-sanctified gossip. Sound familiar?

In this episode, I team up with my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger, to talk about how to take your power back when your life becomes the talk of the neighborhood.

If you’re tired of feeling like your healing is public property and you’re ready to walk tall again, even while Sister So-and-So is side-eyeing you from the church pew, this one’s for you.

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Family of Origin Wounds: How They Shape Divorce and Healing

Family of Origin Wounds: How They Shape Divorce and Healing

What if your deepest shame wasn’t actually yours to carry?

If you’ve ever felt the cold shoulder from your Christian family after your divorce, or you’re still untangling the sticky spiderwebs of shame and silence from your upbringing, pull up a chair. This episode is for you.

I sat down with friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger, and together we unpacked how family of origin dynamics continue to haunt, shape, and sometimes straight-up sabotage your healing after divorce.

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Your Ex, His Family, His Girlfriend, Heck, His Entire Orbit

Your Ex, His Family, His Girlfriend, Heck, His Entire Orbit

Is being “nice” to your ex keeping you stuck in his orbit? In this episode, my friend and fellow coach Diana Swillinger and I peel back the layers on everything related to your ex.

We tackle the sticky, icky, post-divorce drama: how to set boundaries, why you don’t owe him or his people anything, and how to stay in your lane.

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Our Relationships with Mentors, Coaches, and Therapists

Our Relationships with Mentors, Coaches, and Therapists

What if the person you’re turning to for healing is actually keeping you stuck? (Cue dramatic music and flashbacks to church lady “counseling” that made you question your entire existence.)

Welcome to Season 2 of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! I’m kicking things off with my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger. We’re diving headfirst into the sometimes-healing, sometimes-horrifying world of mentors, coaches, and therapists.

Not all helpers are created equal, my friend. And no, your cousin’s youth group leader who “feels called” to counsel probably isn’t qualified to help you unravel years of spiritual abuse.

This episode is your guide to sorting through the noise, finding the right kind of help for the season you’re in, and learning how to trust your own gut again, especially after years of being told it was “deceitfully wicked.” (eye-roll)

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Nine Tricks Emotional Abusers Use to Pull Us Back Into the Cycle (and six clever ways to respond!)

Nine Tricks Emotional Abusers Use to Pull Us Back Into the Cycle (and six clever ways to respond!) [Episode 347]

In this episode, we’re taking a look at the classic emotional abuse push-pull cycle that makes us feel like we’re starring in a soap opera we never auditioned for.

This one’s for the Christian woman who’s been there, twisting herself into a holy pretzel trying to keep the peace, hold the family together, and love like Jesus while getting emotionally sucker-punched by someone who claims to love her.

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Gaslighting and Guilt: Why Christian Women Stay Stuck in Toxic Relationships

Gaslighting and Guilt: Why Christian Women Stay Stuck in Toxic Relationships [Episode 346]

If you’ve ever second-guessed your sanity, asked Google “Is my husband a narcissist or just an annoying human?” or thought you might be sinning by not cheerfully submitting to your own emotional obliteration, this episode is your wake-up call… with love.

Christian counselor, Kris Reece, is back on the show for part two of our convo about the toxic mind games that keep Christian women stuck, particularly when Jesus is used as the emotional ball-and-chain.

Together, we unravel gaslighting, guilt, spiritual manipulation, emotional immaturity, and why you’re not selfish or sinful for walking away from garbage disguised as godliness.

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