Category: Healing from Spiritual Abuse

Natalie Hoffman and Tia Levings, Flying Free Podcast Episode 381 - Can You Fully Recover from Religious Trauma?

Healing From Religious Trauma: A Survivor’s Roadmap with Tia Levings [Episode 381]

Tia Levings is the New York Times bestselling author of A Well-Trained Wife and her newest book, I Belong to Me. She survived a Christian patriarchy cult, escaped a near murder-suicide, was excommunicated for telling her own story, and spent 15 years in intensive trauma therapy doing the work to put herself back together. Now she’s handing you the map to healing from religious trauma.

In this episode, Tia and I dig into the real mechanics of religious trauma recovery: why your body refuses to believe you’re safe even when your brain knows it, what “aftermath” actually means (it’s an agricultural word, and it will change how you see your own devastation), why grief work is not optional, and what agency has to do with the entire trajectory of your healing.

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What if “Biblical Womanhood” is Actually a Trauma Response?

What if “Biblical Womanhood” is Actually a Trauma Response? [Episode 380]

Let’s talk about something called “the subjugation schema.” It’s a clinical pattern that secular psychologists are actively trying to help women heal from, and the conservative Christian church has rebranded the exact same wound as godliness, biblical womanhood, and a high calling.

If you’ve spent your life apologizing for taking up space, smiling when you wanted to scream, or feeling guilty about basic human needs like rest, preferences, and an opinion of your own, this episode is going to feel like someone finally turned the lights on.

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Is Your Church Actually Safe for Abuse Survivors? Here's How to Find Out

Is Your Church Actually Safe for Abuse Survivors? Here’s How to Find Out [Episode 379]

In this episode I’m answering a pressing question Christian women in difficult marriages ask: how do you find a church that will actually support you instead of silence you?

Because not all churches are created equal, and the difference between a safe church and a harmful one can change everything for a woman trying to find her footing. I’ll break down exactly what to look for, what to ask, and what red flags to run from.

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What the Bible Really Says About Divorce and Abuse (And Why Ken Sande Got It Wrong)

Biblical Peacemaking and Abuse: When “Peace” Becomes a Trap

In her critique, author and Christian abuse advocate, Natalie Hoffman, challenges Ken Sande’s influential framework on marriage and divorce, arguing that it dangerously overlooks the realities of abuse. She highlights the critical need for the church to prioritize the safety and well-being of the vulnerable over institutional reputation. By exposing the harmful assumptions underlying Sande’s teachings, Hoffman calls for a more compassionate, biblically-rooted approach that truly supports those suffering in abusive relationships. This conversation is essential for anyone seeking to understand the complexities of marriage, divorce, and the church’s role in healing.

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From Deconstructing to Reconstructing: Finding Wonder Again

From Deconstructing to Reconstructing: Finding Wonder Again [Episode 373]

This is one of my favorite interviews! Today I’m talking with my friend, Dr. Tiffany Yecke Brooks, author of Gaslighted by God, Holy Ghosted, and her brand-new book, To Rebehold the Stars: Reimagining Faith After Deconstruction.

If you’ve walked through the painful process of deconstructing the toxic theology you inherited, this conversation is going to knock your socks off.

Drawing from Dante’s Inferno (I know, right?!), classical literature, and deep theological study, Tiffany shows you how to create a new spiritual lexicon that actually reflects the heart of God.

(Listen to find out what that even is!)

This isn’t about burning it all down. It’s about holding up each piece to the light and deciding: Does this stay or go?

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