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The Flying Free Podcast

Episode 85: A Conversation About Survivors Who Worry That They Are Abusive

Episode 85: A Conversation About Survivors Who Worry That They Are Abusive

You’re the problem. An angry woman, a discontent wife, a troublemaker, the ungodly one. You’ve heard this over and over, in your mind, at church, and from your husband. Why can’t you get it together? Where do all the rage, frustration, and ugliness come from?
What if the question is the answer?
Abusers don’t ask if they are abusive.
Natalie, Daphne, and Rachel discuss the common reactions women have in destructive marriages that bring shame and confusion.

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Episode 84: How to Prepare for Your Custody Case

Episode 84: How to Prepare for Your Custody Case

What if I lose my kids? How can I stand up for myself in the process of divorce when my husband seems to hold all the cards? How will I keep it together as I climb this ladder out of hell? These questions haunt women in abusive marriages who want to escape.

There is hope and there are answers.

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Episode 83: Trusting God with Your Choices

Episode 83: Trusting God with Your Choices

Trust is risk. Trust forces us to decide what we believe, make choices based on those beliefs, and respect what others choose to believe and do. We aren’t called to control others, please everybody, or even defend our decisions. But we are called to live bravely using the knowledge, experience, and power we have.

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Episode 82: Survivor Story – Robin

Episode 82: Survivor Story – Robin

Robin walked on eggshells and hid herself away to survive. After years in an abusive marriage, she believed God didn’t love her and that he hated divorce more than anything. She was taught that her body wasn’t her own, and her job was to make her husband happy at all costs.

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Episode 81: How Do I Forgive Someone Who Keeps Hurting Me?

Episode 81: How Do I Forgive Someone Who Keeps Hurting Me?

Forgiveness is one of the ultimate Christian virtues, right after love. It “sets the prisoners free.” Except in your life. It keeps you defenseless and bound to a person, or people, determined to keep harming you. Forgiveness seems like a super highway to destruction, the restart button for more craziness and pain. So, should you keep forgiving someone who keeps hurting you…and how?

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Episode 78: Survivor Story – Julie

Episode 78: Survivor Story – Julie

While Julie experienced more overt abuse during her formative years, she ended up married to a quiet, covert abuser with a hidden lifestyle.

“The hidden abuse made far more lasting marks on my soul than the overt abuse I experienced as a child ever did.”

Find out what helped her decide to pay the price for freedom.

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Episode 77: Am I Codependent?

Episode 77: Am I Codependent?

If a tennis player is playing a game with someone who isn’t hitting the ball back, is that person still a real tennis player? Emotional abuse victims are often labeled as codependent. But we’d like to make a case for the idea that some victims may just be playing tennis with the wrong player, and they aren’t codependent at all.

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