Category: Learn with Natalie

Spiritual Abuse, Scapegoating, and the Mask of Virtue

Spiritual Abuse, Scapegoating, and the Mask of Virtue [Episode 330]

In this episode of The Flying Free Podcast, we’re talking about a book that forever changed my understanding of evil—M. Scott Peck’s People of the Lie.

This isn’t about cartoon villains or obvious monsters. I’m talking about the kind of evil that sits in church pews, leads Bible studies, and goes home to emotionally destroy their families while maintaining a pristine public image.

Have you ever felt crazy for questioning someone’s “godly” behavior when it leaves you feeling diminished and confused? You’re not alone, and you’re not imagining things. In this episode, I break down the subtle patterns of evil that hide behind masks of righteousness, especially in Christian contexts.

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How Christian Women Resist Oppression in Their Marriages

How Christian Women Resist Oppression in Their Marriages [Episode 328]

So many of you come to me and say things like, “Natalie, I was such a doormat. I just stood there and let it all happen.”
Listen up, beautiful butterfly: You didn’t “just stand there.” You were resisting the entire time, and no one told you that’s what it was. Until now.
In this episode, I shine a flashlight on the small but powerful acts of resistance Christian women pull off daily in emotionally and spiritually abusive marriages. We’re talking journal-hiding, secret-crying, sanity-preserving, Jesus-whispering defiance that deserves a standing ovation—but probably got met with church lady side-eye instead.

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Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Abuser—and When That Changes

Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Abuser—and When That Changes [Episode 326]

Remember those late-night Google searches trying to figure out what’s going on in his head to cause him to treat you the way he does? That obsession with understanding his behavior?

In today’s episode, I’m breaking down something we ALL experience on this healing journey – how our focus shifts as we recover from abuse.

We’ll walk through the 5 stages of recovery – from being completely focused on HIM to finally reclaiming YOUR power and becoming the mentor you never had. This journey isn’t linear, and wherever you are in the process, I want you to know you’re exactly where you need to be.

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What about Addiction-Fueled Abuse?

What About Addiction-Fueled Abuse? [Episode 323]

Is your husband’s addiction tearing your marriage—and your heart—apart?
In today’s powerful episode, I unpack the often-overlooked reality of addiction-fueled abuse. We’ll talk about how addictions—from porn and gambling to drugs and spending—impact the brain, hijack relationships, and leave women spiritually and emotionally devastated.
If you’ve ever tried harder, prayed longer, or changed yourself to fix what’s broken in your marriage, this episode is a healing balm and a wake-up call. I want to remind us that addiction is the problem—not you—and offer biblical, practical wisdom for reclaiming your power, peace, and dignity.

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Narcissistic Abuse in Christian Relationships

Narcissistic Abuse in Christian Relationships [Episode 322]

Ever been told you’re too sensitive? That you just need to forgive more? Or that if you were a better Christian wife, everything would magically get better?
Yeah. Me too. And Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s book It’s Not You is here to throw a holy wrench into that narrative.
In this week’s episode of the Flying Free Podcast, I’m unpacking the powerful truths in this book and showing you exactly how it validates the lived reality of women in emotionally and spiritually abusive relationships.

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