Parenting Small Children in an Emotionally Destructive Home [Episode 94]
November 25, 2020
Parenting small children in an emotionally destructive home is brutal. How do you help yourself, much less your kids?
Parenting small children in an emotionally destructive home is brutal. How do you help yourself, much less your kids?
What if your desire to avoid hurting anyone is actually the reason you ARE hurting them? What if you’re actually hurting YOURSELF by living out this desire too?
Boundaries don’t hurt others, despite the loud voices that tell you otherwise. Healthy boundaries aren’t meant to control other people, ensure they think well of you, or make you into a prickly cactus no one can approach. They’re a way of living your truest self and your highest calling, while honoring the personhood of everyone around you.
You’ve been telling him for years how hurtful his behavior is. Literally begging him to stop. It’s like beating your head against a wall. You’ve reached your breaking point. Then he tosses out a question your heart longed to hear from the beginning:
“What can I do to fix this?”
Right at the end. Right before your feet hit the pavement. Right before you’ve given up.
What now?
When you’re in a spiritually abusive environment, you might worry that God will be displeased if you make a wrong move. Let’s dispel that myth.
What is the power of a woman in a world that tries to grind her down? We are the pioneers led by our Creator to forge into new territory, taking back our life force so we can offer it fully to God’s purposes as He intended.
An abuse survivor sees herself mirrored in the eyes of other people. What she sees is a distortion of who she is because other people don’t really know who she is all the time. To heal, she will need to see herself through a new lens.