Category: Flying Free Podcast

Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Abuser—and When That Changes

Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Abuser—and When That Changes [Episode 326]

Remember those late-night Google searches trying to figure out what’s going on in his head to cause him to treat you the way he does? That obsession with understanding his behavior?

In today’s episode, I’m breaking down something we ALL experience on this healing journey – how our focus shifts as we recover from abuse.

We’ll walk through the 5 stages of recovery – from being completely focused on HIM to finally reclaiming YOUR power and becoming the mentor you never had. This journey isn’t linear, and wherever you are in the process, I want you to know you’re exactly where you need to be.

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What Does a Safe Church Really Look Like?

What Does a Safe Church Really Look Like? [Episode 324]

In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with someone who’s not here to play nice with toxic church culture—Dr. Andrew Bauman. He’s a licensed mental health counselor, a truth-teller, and the author of Safe Church: How to Guard Against Sexism and Abuse in Christian Communities.
If you’ve ever sat in a church pew feeling invisible… silenced… or like it was your job to hold everything together, this conversation was made for you.
Dr. Bauman gets it. He grew up as a pastor’s kid tangled in trauma, became a pastor himself while battling hidden struggles, and eventually found his way to becoming an outspoken advocate for women in faith spaces.

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What about Addiction-Fueled Abuse?

What About Addiction-Fueled Abuse? [Episode 323]

Is your husband’s addiction tearing your marriage—and your heart—apart?
In today’s powerful episode, I unpack the often-overlooked reality of addiction-fueled abuse. We’ll talk about how addictions—from porn and gambling to drugs and spending—impact the brain, hijack relationships, and leave women spiritually and emotionally devastated.
If you’ve ever tried harder, prayed longer, or changed yourself to fix what’s broken in your marriage, this episode is a healing balm and a wake-up call. I want to remind us that addiction is the problem—not you—and offer biblical, practical wisdom for reclaiming your power, peace, and dignity.

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Narcissistic Abuse in Christian Relationships

Narcissistic Abuse in Christian Relationships [Episode 322]

Ever been told you’re too sensitive? That you just need to forgive more? Or that if you were a better Christian wife, everything would magically get better?
Yeah. Me too. And Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s book It’s Not You is here to throw a holy wrench into that narrative.
In this week’s episode of the Flying Free Podcast, I’m unpacking the powerful truths in this book and showing you exactly how it validates the lived reality of women in emotionally and spiritually abusive relationships.

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Can I Gaslight Myself? Part Two

Can I Gaslight Myself? Part Two [Episode 321]

In this episode, I’m joined once again by my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger. We’re diving into the second part of an important topic today: Can we gaslight ourselves?
Gaslighting is usually something done to us—manipulation that makes us question our reality. But what happens when we internalize it? When we start running the script on autopilot and doubting ourselves before anyone else even gets a chance? Buckle up, because our Kaleidoscope members had some thoughts on this, and we’re breaking it all down.

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