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How to Feel Safe Again After Divorce

July 14, 2026

Last week was the why. This week is the what now. In Part 2 of this conversation, Natalie Hoffman and Diana Swillinger get practical about what it actually takes to move your nervous system from a state of constant threat management into something that feels like real life. And they go somewhere unexpected: the resistance to joy itself.

This is not a list of lofty advice. These are specific, doable practices that teach your body moment by moment that it is safe to let its guard down. There is also a deeper question: is “survival mode” even still the right story for where you are now?

Finding Your Freedom, Autonomy, and Independence – High Functioning Women Series Part Four [Episode 377]

May 26, 2026

This is part four of the High Functioning Christian Women in Destructive Marriages series, and today we talk about a concept that ties the whole series together: sovereignty.

Synonyms for sovereignty include: freedom, autonomy, and independence.

If you’ve spent years managing everyone’s needs, shrinking your own, and building an identity around your capacity to give without limit, this episode will challenge a misunderstood theology that was never meant for women who are already pouring out from an empty cup.

The Question Divorced Women Keep Asking (And the Better One to Ask Instead)

May 5, 2026

Today’s conversation is a kick in the pants AND a permission slip, all wrapped into one.

Did You Ever Really Grow Up? The Truth About Individuation After Divorce

April 21, 2026

Most Christian women were never given permission to fully become themselves. Not as girls, not as wives, and not inside their churches. So when the marriage ends and the roles fall away, they’re left with a terrifying blank page and a question they don’t know how to answer: Who am I?

In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, we get real about a psychological process called individuation and why so many divorced Christian women are doing it for the very first time in midlife. We’ll walk through three critical mindset shifts, seven signs of a woman who’s becoming her own person, and three small but powerful practices you can start this week.

If It’s Not “Narcissism,” What Is It? (The Answer) – The Narcissism Trap Series Part Four [Episode 369]

March 3, 2026

In Episode 369 of the Flying Free Podcast, you’ll learn a term that’s more accurate than “narcissistic abuse,” and it’s actually being recognized in courts of law. This is part four of The Narcissism Trap Series, and it shifts everything from trying to diagnose your partner to recognizing what’s really happening to you.

If you’ve been stuck wondering whether he meets the clinical criteria for narcissism or whether therapy could change him, this episode will free you from that trap. Natalie breaks down coercive control—what sociologist Evan Stark calls a “liberty crime”—and why understanding this pattern matters more than any personality disorder diagnosis ever could.

Money Mindset: How Our Beliefs About Money Impact Our Lives

February 6, 2026

Welcome to Season 3 of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! This season we’re getting all up in your business (literally): the money business. And we’re kicking things off by asking: What’s your money mindset looking like after divorce? Is it cool, calm, and collected, or hiding in a closet stress-eating Oreos and ignoring the bill collectors?

I invited my friend and fellow coach Diana Swillinger to help us unpack the tangled web of beliefs we’ve inherited about money, and how to burn those unhelpful scripts to the ground so we can build a mindset that actually serves us.

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