Emotional abuse kills you one nibble at a time. It’s not like physical abuse where a big shark comes up behind you and chomps off your leg. No, emotional abuse is more like a gnat bite. You can barely see the little bugger until you feel the bite. Just a tiny bite. No big deal.
Did you know that abuse has a bestie?
Its sneaky little friend is Shame. Shame is a talkative fellow but very dependable.
He hangs on your earlobes and yells:
“You’re not perfect, so you can’t point out your husband’s faults.”
“You yelled back, so you expect him to stop.”
“You pull away emotionally, so you can’t get angry when he stonewalls.”
“You hit him after he hit you, so you deserved it.”
“You found comfort in someone else’s arms, so you’re just as bad as him.”
“You have no right to expect better when you’re so screwed up.”
Shame keeps us bound and trapped, even long after a divorce.
So what should you do with these painful, tormenting thoughts?
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Is your husband great at playing dress up?
One moment, usually in public, he speaks sweetly, cuddles the baby, and prays over your family. The next moment, usually in the privacy of your home, he glares at you, yells in disgust, and gives you the silent treatment.
He’s the sun and a raging storm.
He’s heaven and hell.
He’s…? How do you figure out reality? How do you come to terms with the oil and water of who he is?
And what do you do when nobody believes that he and others like him are actually wolves in sweet, little sheep’s clothing?
There’s a reason why people say all abuse is physical abuse. Emotional abuse is a double whammy, destroying your mind and your body.
Long after the abuse stops, you’re still dealing with the fallout.
It can feel like your body has failed you. Like you’re permanently broken. It can feel hopeless and frustrating.
So how do you regain your health and fitness in the aftermath of abuse?
Kylar has a unique approach, one of endless compassion, wisdom, and empathy. Because he’s been there too. And it works. Now he’s healthy and strong, from the inside out and helping others just like you.
