Emotional Abuse Archives

Survivor Story: Marie [Episode 132]

August 17, 2021

The length of your marriage. You’ll never forget it. 3 years of holes in the wall. 9 years of sleepless nights. 17 years of pleading. 25 years of silence. 43 years of lowering your standards again and again and again.

While the past can’t be changed, and that time is set, your recovery is NOT. It has NO LIMIT. It has NO TIMELINE.

The depth of your pain and suffering do not outweigh your ability to heal. It all comes down to whether you want it.

The evidence?

Women like Marie. She found healing and transformation in community—one that’s available to you.

What I Would Preach to the Modern Day Preachers (if they would listen…) [Episode 131]

August 10, 2021

Have you ever talked to people who weren’t there? Imagined conversations in your head? Perfected your argument while showering or lying in bed?

I did that…and made it into a podcast.

But this conversation isn’t with just one person. It’s with tens of thousands of people. Pastors.

Because the survivor community knows the price of patriarchy in the church. We know the cost of being controlled. We know the damage of being devalued. And pastors NEED to KNOW this too.

What You Need to Know When You Leave [Episode 130]

August 3, 2021

Your marriage was like a jigsaw puzzle. A big, confusing, fragmented mess.

Once you found the “abuse” piece, everything fell into place.

But are you prepared for what happens when you leave? Cause the gloves come off and the rulebook gets tossed out the window.

From two women who’ve been there and who’ve heard countless stories of the same, here’s the cheat sheet for what you need to know when you get out.

Why Hanging on to Hope in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship Doesn’t Work [Episode 129]

July 27, 2021

“Till death do us part.” Those words haunt you.

The enemy was supposed to be outside of your home and family. Easy to see. Protection just a prayer or a locked door away.

But the one stealing from and killing and destroying you is the one you lie beside at night. The one you promised your forever to.

And he’s counting on it.

Is the Cost to Leave an Abusive Marriage Worth It? [Episode 128]

July 20, 2021

Why are you staying in your abusive marriage?

For many women, the price to get free seems too high. They fear destitution, losing their children, revenge by their husband, more trauma and heartache, a scarlet “D” on their chests, the legal hassle…the list goes on.

These are real, valid fears. And terribly high, but prevalent, costs. Which raise the question: Is it worth it?

Amie experienced all of these things and more to get out. Listen to her story and decide for yourself.

My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part Two [Episode 127]

July 13, 2021

If it’s true that we learn from our mistakes, then I know a whole heck of a lot.

This episode, Part 2 of 2, is about the mistakes I made in church — the three main ways I lit myself on fire, with the encouragement of church leaders. All while trying to escape the inferno of an abusive marriage.

Confused? Horrified? Thirsty?

Then tune in. Cause it’s tea time, and I’m pouring.

Category: Emotional Abuse