Exploring Emotional Abuse

My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part Two

My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part Two

If it’s true that we learn from our mistakes, then I know a whole heck of a lot.

This episode, Part 2 of 2, is about the mistakes I made in church — the three main ways I lit myself on fire, with the encouragement of church leaders. All while trying to escape the inferno of an abusive marriage.

Confused? Horrified? Thirsty?

Then tune in. Cause it’s tea time, and I’m pouring.

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My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part One

My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part One

Put your stretchy pants on, cause this episode’s a three-course dinner on what NOT to do once you realize your marriage is a hamster wheel of emotional abuse.

These three mistakes caused me greater pain, for much longer. But I didn’t know then what I know now. Because when we KNOW differently, we DO differently.

And that’s what Flying Free is all about.

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How Pretending and Fear Keep You Stuck in Abuse Cycles (and What Sets You Free)

How Pretending and Fear Keep You Stuck in Abuse Cycles (and What Sets You Free)

Abusers are terrified. They mask their fear with rage, manipulation, false piety, and good ole-fashioned bullying.

If they’re actually weak, scared babies, how are they so powerful and unchecked in churches (and in marriages)?

Because you’re afraid too. And you’re also really good at pretending. All while being destroyed.

It doesn’t have to be this way anymore, and I can show you how…to fly free.

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Emotional Abuse Survivor Q&A

Emotional Abuse Survivor Q&A

If my husband has a mental health issue or a personality disorder, does that excuse his abusive behavior? My husband isn’t the typical abuser; is my marriage actually abusive or just bad? Am I wrong for wanting privacy that my husband demands I should give up? How will I know for sure that my abuser has changed? Since I’ve made the decision to stay in my marriage for now, how can I grow while doing so?

I answer these questions and more in this episode. This is a replay of a Q&A done in the Flying Free Sisterhood program. One of the many life-changing benefits of this group is the ability to have your questions answered in a monthly Q&A, weekly during coaching, and every day in the private forum.

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The Big Problem with Christian Marriage Counseling

The Big Problem with Christian Marriage Counseling

In other words, love lets evil do whatever it wants, pretends nothing’s happened, and calls a prison a palace. Right?
This is the kind of “biblical” message Christian counselors often tout. And it’s killing women and children, whether all at once or piece by precious piece. If you’ve been hurt by “love,” especially when you were desperate for help and safety, you’ve got an advocate in Cindy Burrell.

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Is it Possible to Stay Well in an Abusive Marriage?

Is it Possible to Stay Well in an Abusive Marriage?

You’ve got two options and you HATE them both. You know you’re married to an abuser, but you DON’T want a divorce. So…you’re staying.

But will you be consumed by your husband’s reckless hate? Can you and Jesus be enough in the years to come? Will healing happen in the midst of destruction? Can you survive staying married and, what’s more, thrive? Is it even possible to stay well in an abusive marriage?

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Finding Your Personal Style After Years of Emotional Abuse

Finding Your Personal Style After Years of Emotional Abuse

Recovering from abuse isn’t just about healing the inside, it’s about manifesting life on the outside. You were created to embody beauty and appreciate it — in your smile, with your clothes, your hair style, even the makeup you choose to wear — and Jill Swanson is an expert in helping women do just that.

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